The question of which toy to purchase is complex. Much like a favorite food, a favorite color, or a favorite hobby, sextoy selection is dependent on a person’s tastes and desires. Once a person has taken the time to learn about toy safety and basic information about construction, the fun of finding the right toy begins. That process can be as fun as its conclusion.
The first, and most important, step is to discover what excites the user. People commonly believe that there are a couple of erogenous zones on the body that can be stimulated by a sextoy. But the fact is that each person has the potential to discover many areas of intense feeling, and has the ability to find toys that stimulate areas of the body in ways previously unimagined. Each person can find new and exciting feelings through experimenting with toys.
That idea is what makes sextoy shopping so exciting in the first place.
But how does a user figure out which toy is best? How does the process begin? At what point does it end? A lucky few have learned that, if done correctly, the process of new discoveries about stimulation doesn’t end. Possibilities are nearly limitless. But learning how to begin is sometimes confusing. The easiest way to begin the process is to follow a plan to help. This could be as simple as three easy steps:
- You should learn about your body.
- You should experiment with new sensations, feelings and areas of the body.
- You should find the toy that stimulates the feeling that is most pleasurable, and then repeat the process!
Knowing one’s own body is critical to knowing what will, or won’t, be fun. Unfortunately, many people have never taken the time to fully discover what excites their senses and causes intense feelings. Each person’s body is different. Many times people will hear statements like “My partner loves this feeling,” or “This way works every time.” While those statements may be true for one person, for another person, those feelings or methods may be useless, or in a worst case, uncomfortable and painful.
Sometimes, a person may feel as though something is wrong if the feeling doesn’t happen as another person described it. This couldn’t be much further from the truth. Think about the idea of ticklishness. One person may be ticklish all over. A brush of a feather will cause that person to writhe and laugh. Another person may be only ticklish on the soles of the feet. Yet another person may feel ticklish on the stomach, and so on.
Which one is properly ticklish? If the question seems silly, that’s because it is. So why would a person feel like something is wrong if another person feels intense erotic stimulation in an area that is different. Some women get pleasure from G-spot stimulation. Other women prefer clitoral stimulation. Those are obvious examples.
But what about other areas of the body? Nipples can be intense erogenous zones, for both men and women. Some people love anal stimulation. Stimulating the labia can make some people feel aroused in ways others can’t imagine. Each person’s body is different and each body can provide feelings that are uniquely pleasurable.
Almost any long time sextoy user can relate a story about using a toy for stimulation that is unique to them, like holding a massager at a certain angle to create a feeling only they can appreciate. On the flip side of that, most can also relate experiments that they thought would bring pleasure, only to feel disappointed. Knowing one’s body is a process of trial and error.
Experimenting with sensations prior to purchasing a sextoy can make the purchase the right one. Simply guessing can make the purchase a waste. And the best part of experimenting is finding the right pleasure spot, which is fun on its own! But once a pleasure spot is found, then the next step is to figure out how to best enjoy it.
Some people may think this requires a lot of effort and maybe even complex sextoys. But that is a myth worth forgetting. Sometimes a simple vibrating bullet is a great way to experiment with a new sensation. And starting with simple sensations is a great way to learn about how one’s body reacts to more intense stimulation. Buying an expensive multi-function vibrator, when a person isn’t sure it will be fun to use it, doesn’t make sense.
But it does make sense to try modest experiments with new sensations. Even warming massage oil can be an exciting new sensation for some parts of the body. Trying simple, uncomplicated sensations can be the first step toward exciting new ideas.
So what does one do when the feeling is right and the stimulation that enhances that feeling is discovered? The final step is to find the toy that most enhances that feeling. This includes finding a sextoy that is designed for the stimulation one wants and then finding the right size, power source and everything else that makes a toy desirable.
Once a person knows her or his body, has experimented with what adds pleasure and has found the perfect sextoy to add to the pleasure, the only thing left to do is to start over! As we mentioned at the beginning, the possibilities are nearly limitless and each person may discover something new with each play session. With a little creativity and some practice, sensual pleasure can be found in new places and with new toys almost all of the time.
