7 Easily Avoided Sex Toy Problems
Friday, July 2nd, 2010It’s Friday and we feel lucky, so we’re going with the number 7, even though there are a few other minor issues we could mention here. But we wanted to get a few items out on the table that haven’t been there before in this blog. Sex toys are great additions to the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen or wherever else you want to use them in private. That said, we also want you to enjoy them, and enjoyment can hinge on avoiding these common problems.
1. This one is for the guys out there (that means you, sitting there stewing over your partner’s favorite dildo). NEVER, ever, compare your pride and joy with your partner’s favorite playmate. The “Duh Factor” on this one is immense, but it bears discussing. Unless you were chosen by a picture showing you in the Full Monty, your partner wanted you for reasons other than the length or girth of captain happy. Let your partner have her or his fun and roll with it. That dildo or vibrator is a pleasure instrument, not a measuring stick!
2. Fantasy is NOT reality. Even the most experienced players know that there is a time and place for everything. Trying to recreate a special moment in a moment that isn’t so special (think 6:30 AM, prior to the first coffee), is a recipe for disaster. Sex toys are great when your partner is in the mood, but they don’t fit in every time. Don’t blame the tools, if you’re attempting to use them when the job isn’t called for.
3. Keep what works, discard the rest. Think about it, you don’t keep eating food that you don’t like in hope that it will taste better next time. The same rule applies to your sex toys and erogenous zones. I’ve tossed out at least $1,000 worth of toys, lubes and other items because they didn’t work for me (yes, I actually paid for them – they weren’t perks). How many bad meals have you sat through? It’s not that big of a deal to spend some bucks and decide that something doesn’t work. If you look at it as an investment in finding what does work, you are on your way.
4. Revisiting tools, always make sure that you have everything you need. You’ve invested time and energy to meet someone who shares your proclivities. Then, just when everything comes together, you forgot the condoms? Have you lost your mind? Nope, you are simply unprepared. Don’t let that happen.
5. One last thing on tools, always use the right tools for the right jobs. If a sex toy isn’t designed for anal play, don’t use it there. If you are going to try out the large dildo, have the right amount of lube on hand (or wherever else you need it). Make sure that your sex toy is safe around water before you take the pleasure bath – and know the difference between splash proof and waterproof. Your sex toys are only as good as you want if you use them properly.
6. Modification is not good with sex toys! Some people have had serious injuries because they attempted to change their sex toys. And, by the way, we hear tons of talk about homemade sex toys. For some people, that’s possible. But like anything else, the rest of us would do far better buying a professionally designed sex toy. The fact is, most of us should avoid the nightmare of a poorly functioning or poorly designed sex toy.
7. Keep realistic expectations. A sex toy can’t replace a loving relationship (though it can enhance one). And a sex toy isn’t supposed to. Enjoy your toys, but don’t expect them to give you everything you need.
As most of you know, we love our sex toys. Keep these issues in mind and you can avoid most mistakes. And always be ready to experiment. You never know when you might discover a whole new avenue of pleasure!























