This is a G Spot sex toy

So the debate rages on about whether or not the G Spot exists.  From our standpoint, while the empirical data may be less than overwhelming, the number of G Spot sex toys that are manufactured and sold make a solid practical argument that someone is getting stimulation from the area Dr. Grafenberg first discussed. But once in a while, it’s good to look at recent discussions on the subject, especially if you want to experiment with this popular form of stimulation.

A recent article contained this sentence as its thesis: “Unlike men, women can orgasm in many different ways.”  It then went on to list different anatomical features like, clitoris, vagina and G Spot.  People who have read our work know that the article was then tossed aside.  The reason?  The clitoris and G Spot (such as it is considered to exist) are parts of the vagina!  Why go through all of the complex possible permutations when one fact stands out?  That fact is that each person finds a specific stimulation satisfying and can achieve orgasm through it.

Of all of the big mistakes a person can make, over-complicating sexual sensations is one of the biggest that can damage adult play time fun.

WebMD has a great section on this subject, which we think summarizes the argument over the G Spot very well:

“Prosterman and others point out the importance of thinking of the G-spot in context — that it may be an extension of the clitoral anatomy, which extends back into the vaginal canal. Kerner writes that the G-spot may be ‘nothing more than the roots of the clitoris crisscrossing the urethral sponge.’

Helen O’Connell, MD, head of the neurourology and continence unit at the Royal Melbourne Hospital Department of Urology in Australia, says, ‘The G-spot has a lot in common with Freud’s idea of vaginal orgasms. It is a sexual concept, this time anatomical, that results in confusion and has resulted in the misconception that female sexuality is extremely complex.’”

The article also contains this:

A G Spot sex toy for couples

“In the end, whether this debated locus of pleasure is fact or fiction may not matter that much. O’Connell, who is also co-author of a 2005 Journal of Urology study on the anatomy of the clitoris, says that focusing on the G-spot to the exclusion of the rest of a woman’s body is ‘a bit like stimulating a guy’s testicles without touching the penis and expecting an orgasm to occur just because love is present.’ She says focusing on the inside of the vagina to the exclusion of the clitoris is ‘unlikely to bring about orgasm. It is best to think of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina as one unit because they are intimately related.’”

Ok, so what is the G Spot and where is it?  The G Spot is an area which many women claim, if stimulated properly, can lead to intense orgasm.  What it is, we aren’t qualified to say, though the base of the clitoris sounds like a good guess, since the clitoris can have a shaft of one to three inches and the G Spot is generally agreed to be located two to three inches inside the vagina on the upper wall.

Do you have a G Spot?  That’s the question that you must answer.  Experimenting with sensations is a great way to see whether or not this area adds something more to your orgasm experience.  As we mentioned before, there are many quality G Spot sex toys designed to create that type of stimulation.

Let’s say for the sake of discussion that someone scientifically proves that the G Spot is a myth.  If you achieve intense orgasms by stimulating the area one to three inches inside on the vagina’s upper wall, does it matter?  Learning what works for you is an art, not a science.

So enjoy your next orgasm, wherever you find it.  And don’t be afraid to experiment.  Why should you be, it isn’t exactly a science!

You will need these

If you’ve read this blog for a while, you know that we are big fans of research in many subjects.  Our goal is to provide information to you that improves your understanding of sexual health and the positive benefits of healthy sexuality.  But every once in a while, we stumble across a “duh” moment from the world of science that makes us scratch our heads and ask why they even bothered.

A headline from Health Magazine led to just such an occassion this weekend.  The article was titled “When It Comes to Casual Sex, Men Aren’t so Picky.”  If ever there was a “duh” moment, there you have it.  Apparently researchers spent time and money to prove the most obvious assertion I’ve read in a while.

Here is the crux of the study:

“The 427 men were more likely than the 433 women to agree to casual sex, and the men expressed a greater desire for it than women. The study also found that the men were more likely to go out, go to the apartment, and go to bed with members of the opposite sex in all three categories of attractiveness.

Men needed to be exceptionally attractive to tempt women to consider casual sex, said Dr. Achim Schutzwohl, of the department of psychology at the University of Brunel in the U.K., and colleagues.”

Now that we’ve cleared that up, I know I’ll sleep easier.  If you’re going to engage in casual sex, remember to have your condom at the ready.  Good grief but those scientists must have been bored…

Orgasm can release some stress, but expert Joey Garcia says that it isn’t all that great as a strategy to eliminate stress.  In fact, the opposite is true.  In an article in News Review, Garcia says that using sex as a stress reducer can lead to some serious problems in a relationship.

From the full article:

“Sexual activity does reduce stress, but using sex as anti-stress medicine will take a toll on your relationship. The purpose of sexual activity is to connect intimately with your partner, deepening your capacity for passion, love and self-giving. But under stress, sex can quickly become an addiction, dehumanizing your partner and reducing your ability to connect intimately with her or him. A healthy romantic relationship that includes consistent intimacy on all levels is the right preparation against stress.”

And as we’ve mentioned in recent posts, many Americans find that sex toys are an integral part of a healthy sexual relationship.  Check out our complete line of Sex Toys for Couples to find the toy that is right for you and your partner.

Bill talked about a recent study Center for Sexual Health Promotion in Indiana University’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation in an earlier post, but I just finally got around to checking it out and wanted to talk about it again.

My favorite thing to come out of this study is the high percentage of men who reported using a vibrator at one time or another:

The male and female studies, conducted among adult Americans, show 45 percent of men saying they’ve used a vibrator, with most of the heterosexual men surveyed saying they had done so during foreplay or intercourse with a female partner.

I don’t know much about doing it with men, but I’m glad to hear that almost half of all men have no problem bringing a vibe into the bedroom. I think the ladies reading this will almost unanimously agree that sex is better with a little buzz!

Waterproof Jack Rabbit

We’re giving a big hat tip to Cory Silverberg at About.com who caught this research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.  We’ve reported on sex toy use in the past, but finding reliable numbers has been difficult.  Many researchers work with sexual function, STI’s, reproductive health and other sexuality issues.  But few focus on how sexual health and well being can be enhanced with sex toys.

Fortunately, Mr. Silverberg wrote up a great summary about this new research, and we found it to be good information.   Here’s one sample of his summary:

“The researchers compared vibrator users and non-vibrator users on several measures of sexual functioning (asking questions about things like erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, pain, orgasm, lubrication, and sexual desire). Overall men and women who used vibrators reported fewer problems with sexual function. And people who used vibrators more recently (the past month) responded to surveys in a way that indicated fewer problems with sexual function.”

Like we always remind our readers, if you have a problem with sexual dysfunction, don’t spend too much time looking for answers on the internet.  Find a licensed clinical specialist who can help you overcome the problem.  Some sexual dysfunction is also related to more serious medical issues.

But it is interesting to know that vibrator use corresponds directly to sexual health in this study.  As more and more people come to see the value of sex toys as sexual health enhancements, we hope to see more studies supporting their use.  Not to mention, if your sex life is in a rut, you can definitely turn it around with good vibrator usage!

Check out our complete line of vibrators, and get going on a healthier, happier sex life.

Reduce Your Risk

The Guttmacher Institute has produced a new study that is sure to raise some eyebrows.  The study focuses on whether “pulling out” or withdrawal, is almost as effective as condom use to prevent pregnancy.  This is a PDF file of the study.  It is fairly detailed and we’d like some time to compare it to other data.

I’ll do a more detailed post in this Sunday’s Sex Toy Review.

But after a cursory read, I do notice that the study does not make claims about protection against STI’s.  In fact, it makes one reference which I believe will lead to some controversy.  They state:

“Parallel HIV risk reduction approaches have been controversial but successful among some populations of men who have sex with men.”

At first glance, this seems like a tacit endorsement, but in context it is an acknowledgement of other research.  My concern is that such a study taken outside of the confines of a strictly monogamous relationship with an STI free partner can lead people to potentially catastrophic (unless you consider genital herpes a mild irritation) conclusions with regard to their sexual health.

We’ll stick to the tried and mostly true method of recommending condom use.  Use it, or loose sleep is the best way to frame it.  And be certain of this, withdrawal, or “pulling out” has never been endorsed as a protection against STI’s.  If you are with a new partner, please use a condom.

Pregnancy isn’t your only risk.  Next to HIV, pregnancy is a breeze.

The Software Guys Know Hardware Too

As it turns out, Techies are apparently one of your best choices for a sex partner.  No kidding, an anonymous study found that the tech guys are the best in bed, and to their credit in our book, most likely to use sex toys.  We just knew there was something good going on in IT departments around the world, now we know what it is that makes those guys look so happy all the time.  From the SUN:

“While computer nerds are obviously good at IT, what we didn’t realise is that they’re good at “it” too. An anonymous study of 2,000 British men and women concluded that out of all jobs, computer geeks make the best lovers. They were found to be the most selfless in the sack, the most adventurous and more likely to use love gadgets.

Seventy-eight per cent of techies that were questioned also claimed that sex toys were part of their love life. And a further eight out of ten tech workers said that sex toys played an important part in their sexual relationships.”

So there you have it.  If you want a scorchingly good time in the sack, you need to find a programmer, or developer.  Did I mention that those in the fitness industry were least likely to use a sex toy?  It’s your choice.  You can have the muscle-bound narcissist, or the cuddly guy who wants you to be happy.  With a reputation like that, I think I’m going to go back to school to learn programming.

Most likely to be found in a British bedroom

We’re big fans of the British people now.  A recent study reports that over half of the people surveyed in Britain admit to using sextoys during play time, and a quarter of them have a webcam in the bedroom.  Now that’s spreading the wealth!  According to the Cosmopolitan survey:

“In the study conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine more than half of the people admitted using a sex toy in the sack, while a quarter used a webcam.

Almost 20pct of the respondents agreed that they would even hook up with a stranger they met on the Internet for casual sex.”

It also added this:

“The survey involving people from six different countries UK, USA, Germany, Finland, Russia and Sweden showed that those from Finland were most likely to indulge in-group sex, while 54pct of Germans admit to having an affair.”

And, for the fantasy buffs, apparently Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt and Orlando Bloom still have “it.”  They were the celebrities topping the “Who would you most like to have sex with” list.  The British also topped the safe sex list with 72% of them practicing safe sex.  Our swinging Finnish friends, however, severely dissapoint us with only 56% practicing safe sex.

Here’s a tip from Sextoys.com, if you’re going to have group sex, USE CONDOMS.  Please.  You can find them here.  Of course, our British readers already know where to find them.  Jolly good work, that.  Now you can return to your rooms and turn on the webcams!

One of the sexual myths that is frequently believed in our culture is that anal sex is “something gay men do.”  If you consider the raw numbers alone, that’s completely incorrect.  But now, even in terms of percentages, nearly as many heterosexual couples engage in anal sex as homosexual couples.  That may surprise some, but the fact is that sexual activity is fairly fluid in any culture and the numbers will vary as tastes and desires change over time.

According to Wikipedia, at the beginning of the 20th Century, one researcher determined that the number of homosexual men engaging in anal sex was 8% of the population.  Recent studies place the number between 40% and 60%.  On the other hand, heterosexuals engaging in anal sex have fluctuated as well, ranging from 20% to 70% depending on which survey you believe.

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“MYTH #4: All gay men have anal sex.

There is no connection between being gay and having anal sex—many straight men and women enjoy anal sex, while many gay men do not. In fact, studies have shown that a significant proportion of the gay male population does not engage in anal sex, and their partners are absolutely okay with that. There are a wide variety of reasons men choose not to have anal sex, ranging from finding it gross to merely not finding it very pleasurable. Gay men engage in many kinds of sexual behaviors other than anal sex, from mutual masturbation to kissing to oral sex. Whatever is comfortable and pleasurable and fun is what’s right for you!”

Readers of this blog know that we agree with that assessment.  Each person has unique desires and finds different stimulations pleasurable.  If you don’t enjoy anal sex, don’t do it.  If you do, do it safely and use condoms and a healthy supply of lube.  Your sexual tastes are as individual as your tastes for food.  Learn what you like and go with it.  Don’t worry about “normal,” because normal is a very fickle word.

And it can ruin a perfectly good play time, unless you know what you want and do it!

Dildo Boro Glass Sleek Wand

One of my favorite perks of glass toys is their insane ability to retain heat. Sure, they’re incredibly smooth and pretty nice on the eyes, but nothing gets me going like a hard, hot piece of glass being dragged down my body.

When it comes to sex toys, most glass wands fit into two categories: glass and pyrex. While you may assume they are the same thing, there is a noticeable difference between the two.

Glass

Regular glass toys are probably what you’re most familiar with for a couple of reasons. The first is that they cost a lot less than Pyrex wands and are more prevalent. According to Wikipedia (I’ll own up to referencing it!) these toys are made out of sand (silicon dioxide) and calcium carbonate.

While glass wands are perfectly safe to use, they are not as strong as Pyrex toys, and I recommend you avoid extreme temperature changes because they could break. My personal rule is that I don’t do any thing more drastic then run a glass toy under the tap to warm it up or cool it down.

While they aren’t quite as durable, a nice glass toy should last a very long time as long as you handle it with care. They are also a really nice option for someone on a budget, or a curious person who’s interested in trying a glass dildo, but not looking to spend a big bucks on a toy they aren’t sure they’ll love.

Pyrex

Pyrex, or borosilicate glass, is enhanced by the addition of boron. This makes it stronger, which means it is better able to handle temperature change and is a safer, albeit more expensive, option.

Because they are much more heat resistant, Pyrex toys are perfect for temperature play. If you have the foresight to do so, placing a Pyrex wand in a bowl of hot water for 15 minutes will add a new dimension to your fancy fuck toy.

Of course, you should always be careful if you decide to warm your wand up because it will retain heat very well for a surprisingly long time. If the water is too hot, it could be very dangerous and burn your sensitive bits. You should also remember that Pyrex is still glass and that means it is not indestructible. Never go from one extreme temp to another because it could definitely break. While this piece is about heating things up, I will also mention that Pyrex toys should not be placed in the freezer. I know it’s tempting, but the fridge is as far as you should take it!

Glass toys are definitely a luxury item, no matter if you decided to stick with regular glass or spend the big bucks on Pyrex. They’re hard, smooth and perfect for heating things up in the bedroom.

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