The ladies over at HotmoviesForHer made us privy to the fact that today is indeed International Orgasm Day!  They always have their finger on the pulse on the what’s what of sex related holidays, and thank goodness for that!  They have a list of top orgasm pornos that you should definitely check out, but first you should check out our top toys to-get-you-to your-O:

For  many women, rabbit vibrators are where it’s at when it comes to getting off in a timely manner.  The Butterfly from Vibratex is known far and wide for it’s body friendly orgasmic capabilities – stimulating internally with a rotating shaft and externally with a vibrating butterfly.  If a life altering orgasm isn’t enough for you, this toy lights up for your visual enjoyment.

There are tons and tons and tons of male masturbators on the market.  Many of them make magical things happen, but from what I’ve heard from someone I consider near and dear to me, the Flip Hole will make you see stars… and moons and the entire universe as you explode into one fantastic orgasmic pillow of happiness.  This sucker (no pun intended) features a tunnel lined with nubs, gates, flaps, ribs and tiny little ferries that work hard to make you feel great.  Okay, nix the ferries, but the rest is true.   Made from skin friendly elastomer, the Tenga Flip Hole is made to last.

We’ve blogged about it before and we’ll blog about it again.  The Lelo Ella is an amazing g-spot dildo.  It has the no-vibration-necessary power to stimulate your G instantly.  It is perfect for those who don’t need a lot of girth, but even those who do just might enjoy it.  Ella’s shape makes g-spot stimulation a no brainer.  It is a firm yet flexible silicone toy with a heavenly soft finish.  Whether you are a fan of g-spot orgasms or you’d like to learn more about having them, Ella will serve you right.

So, you won’t be able to order and receive these toys before the clock strikes midnight and International Orgasm Day is over, but you will be able to acquire them for future orgasmic endeavors!  Regardless of whether or not you order a new sex toy, we hope you have an amazing day filled with orgasms and anything else that makes you smile.

This is not a Bonobo

As some of you may have figured out by now, we never get tired of talking about orgasms.  And following up on a post about Immaculate Orgasms, I found more information about how to get things going, so to speak.  Some of you may remember that I was stunned by the fact that visualizing a walk on the beach could lead to an orgasmic experience.

Well, thank goodness scientific resources are being dedicated to help us understand these things.  Women’s Health recently published a story about what turns women on.  You can read the full article here.  This is the excerpt I found most interesting:

“One of the most intriguing research nuggets to emerge: While male sexuality is fairly predictable—they tend to be aroused by naked women and naked women hooking up with other naked women—female sexuality is stimulated by a surprisingly wide array of turn-ons. Meredith Chivers, Ph. D., an assistant professor of psychology at Queens University in Kingston, Ontario, calls this “the nonspecificity of women’s sexual arousal.” Chivers created a buzz with a study in which she showed both men and women a variety of sexually explicit images—nude male and female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex, and sex between bonobos (a particularly frisky species of ape)—while measuring physiological signs of genital arousal as well as their subjective feelings of desire.

For the guys, the findings were straightforward enough: The straight men in the study were physically aroused by women, gay men were aroused by men, and neither group felt any stirrings for the apes. The men’s physical reactions (erections) were in agreement with what they reported being turned on by.”

We’re getting closer to the point here.  Of course guys are fairly predictable, and my guess is a couple of them had to ponder calculus equations during the Bonobo scenes to keep from giving the wrong impressions.  It doesn’t take much to stir a guy’s feelings, or terminate them in a heartbeat.  But what about women?  The article continues.

“The women in Chivers’s study were aroused by all the images—but that doesn’t mean they desired to have sex with the people (or animals) they saw. “Women have the capacity to get turned on by a broad range of things,” she says. “This is normal and not necessarily a challenge to sexual identity.”

While it may not challenge sexual identities, it can definitely confuse a partner.  Some of you may wonder where I’m heading with all of this.  I’m heading back to square one, where we always head when things get confusing.

Sexuality and arousal are among the most individual aspects of a person.  I mean, the idea of visualizing a beach for orgasm stunned me.  But on the other hand, what arouses me might raise a few eyebrows.  Sure, you can ask, but I won’t tell here.

And since sex is usually two people getting together for a good time, that means that two individuals have to synchronize their desires if everyone is going to have fun.  That means communication and patience are a big part of making sure a good sexual relationship can happen.  With such diverse points of arousal, men and women need to communicate openly and honestly to get the most from sex.

Or, you can just go solo, visualizing a Bonobo on the beach.  Personally, I’d rather talk things through.

Most people with a pulse who read our blog will recall our discussion of Extended Massive Orgasm.  And that was a fun subject to cover.  But today I’m going to add a twist with Immaculate Orgasm.  That’s right, an orgasm that requires no physical stimulation is possible.

From Esquire:

“The Kinsey Institute reported that out of more than 5,000 men surveyed, three to four males could do it while awake, compared with 2 percent of females. Neuroscientist Barry R. Komisaruk has found there is little physical difference between tactile and transcendental orgasms in women. (He hasn’t studied men.) No one’s sure how it happens, but some of the women he observes don’t employ erotic visions at all, preferring “fantasies of pastoral scenes, walking on the beach.”

Use this when you cannot imagine a beach

Seriously?  A walk on the beach is orgasmic?  On the bright side, this is yet one more way to achieve orgasm, and we like it when more options are available to make us happy.

Of course, you can always use a dildo when your imagination fails!

Regular readers know that we consider the orgasm to be one of the most elusive concepts and psychological and physical acts in the human experience.  Not because it is necessarily difficult to achieve, but because it is such a variable from one individual to another.  Now comes a new study that adds more controversy to the discussion.  From the Times Online:

“When women are wired up to a machine that measures their physical arousal, those who usually orgasm from coitus seem more aware of their bodily state. If they become aroused physically when shown sexy films, they will be more likely to report this than women who usually climax clitorally – indicating that they are more self-aware.

Most controversial of all, Brody has shown that the coitally orgasmic have better mental health and better relationships. He claims they have greater satisfaction from their sex life and more frequent feelings of desire. Indeed, Brody says that that women who never climax coitally are at greater risk of neurosis, schizophrenia and anorexia.”

But there is a catch.

“Of course, Brody’s work is controversial and raises its own questions. For a start, depending on how you read the evidence, the number of women who orgasm coitally is anywhere between one and two thirds – but the former statistic casts doubt on the evolutionary benefit of female orgasm.”

All of this leads us back to the beginning, which is, each individual is unique.  Broad generalizations can be useful to understand trends, but none will adequately describe a person and that person’s response to stimulus.  So get to know your body, find out what best pleases you and then enjoy it!

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Who Would Have Guessed It

Do a top ten list of situations where you would expect a screaming orgasm.  You might expect one on a date with a partner you’ve wanted to experience for a long time.  You might expect to have one with your favorite rabbit.  You might even expect one with an intense masturbation fantasy.

But we have one you probably wouldn’t have guessed.  From the Times of London:

“Orgasm and childbirth are not two words you expect to find in the same sentence. But, as implausible as it may sound, increasing numbers of mothers are signing up to the Orgasmic Birth movement. Childbirth, they claim, far from being a painful ordeal to endure, can be as ecstatic and pleasurable as the moment of conception itself. Now, with the release of two new documentary films in America depicting orgasmic births, and websites awash with first-hand accounts from women claiming similar experiences, are we about to lift the lid on this taboo?

Isobel Patterson, 31, a lawyer from Brighton, gave birth to her first baby, Amelia, last December, and is convinced she experienced an orgasmic birth, witnessed by her husband, James. She remembers it as the most pleasurable day of her life.”

My only question is why is it taboo?  Mixing childbirth and orgasm seems like a great evolutionary coping mechanism for what otherwise might be just a painful experience.  Maybe it is nature’s way of ensuring more children?