No need to steal for a good time

Does size matter that much?  Apparently, one Pennsylvania man was willing to spend a good deal of money – other people’s money – to get some extra inches.  Or at least to try to get some extra inches.

From Fox Philly:

“A Lehigh County man admits he stole ID’s then racked up thousands in bills for penis enlargements.  39-year-old Jose Amid Juarbe pleaded guilty to dozens of charges, including identity theft and forgery.

Police say Juarbe stole the identities of eight people and ran up $80,000 of bills in their names. Some of the money was used to buy penis enlargements for him and a friend and breast implants for two women.”

Here’s a friendly tip: An inch or two more isn’t worth a lengthy jail sentence.

Time for a little more news of the weird.  This one comes from Florida, where a “messy” breakup led to a stolen dildo and police involvement.  But the details are just, well, bizarre.

A great dildo for well under 70 bucks

From the Sun Sentinel:

“Things are getting naughty in Niceville.  We’re talking about a stolen….dildo.  Yes, cops were called to a Niceville home on Buddy Phelps Road about the missing sex toy, reports the Northwest Florida Daily News.

The guy who lived there said a woman had lived with him for about a week. But when she left, she snatched his $70 dildo.  The cop asked him if he’d bought it for the woman.  The guy said “yes” — as well as with other women, too.”

I’ll agree with the columnist who reacted to that tidbit with “Yuck!”  For crying out loud, don’t steal a used dildo.  Buy your own dildo and leave the “yuck” out of your love life, no matter how bizarre that love life might get.

You will need these

If you’ve read this blog for a while, you know that we are big fans of research in many subjects.  Our goal is to provide information to you that improves your understanding of sexual health and the positive benefits of healthy sexuality.  But every once in a while, we stumble across a “duh” moment from the world of science that makes us scratch our heads and ask why they even bothered.

A headline from Health Magazine led to just such an occassion this weekend.  The article was titled “When It Comes to Casual Sex, Men Aren’t so Picky.”  If ever there was a “duh” moment, there you have it.  Apparently researchers spent time and money to prove the most obvious assertion I’ve read in a while.

Here is the crux of the study:

“The 427 men were more likely than the 433 women to agree to casual sex, and the men expressed a greater desire for it than women. The study also found that the men were more likely to go out, go to the apartment, and go to bed with members of the opposite sex in all three categories of attractiveness.

Men needed to be exceptionally attractive to tempt women to consider casual sex, said Dr. Achim Schutzwohl, of the department of psychology at the University of Brunel in the U.K., and colleagues.”

Now that we’ve cleared that up, I know I’ll sleep easier.  If you’re going to engage in casual sex, remember to have your condom at the ready.  Good grief but those scientists must have been bored…

We know California Exotics has star power, but now they’re crashing the movies.  Not porn movies, they’ve gone mainstream in a feature film.  From California Exotics’ Press Release:

“As frank, honest discussion of sexual pleasure goes mainstream, California Exotic Novelties and celebrity sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman are proud to announce that the Dr. Berman Astrea 1 Vibrating Briefs makes its star-turn in the new motion picture The Ugly Truth, starring Katherine Heigl.

In a hilarious scene, Heigl’s character dons her pair of Astrea I Remote Vibrating Briefs for a night out, only to have the wireless remote control — and her fate — fall into unsuspecting hands.

Movie Stars

“This scene is one of the funniest film moments since the orgasm scene from When Harry Met Sally,” chuckles Cal Exotics President & Founder, Susan Colvin. “But the expression of pleasure on Katherine Heigl’s face is definitely true-to-life!”

Astrea I Remote Vibrating Briefs are part of the Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics line, from California Exotic Novelties. Available in stretch lace brief and thong designs, the attractive look of these beautiful garments inspires confidence, while the contoured, removable vibrating mechanism delivers unspeakable hands-free stimulation. The compact, full-featured remote control commands pleasure from up to 12 feet away, offering numerous possibilities for exciting play.

“The moral of the story is: don’t let the controller fall into enemy hands,” jokes Cal Exotics VP/Sales Jackie White. “With power comes responsibility!””

And a little more about Astrea:

“Add risque fun to your next date! This remote control vibrating brief provides discreet hands-free stimulation.

Designed in beautiful stretch lace, it is comfortable and sexy. Mini-remote stimulator is contoured, compact, and removable. Remote control has a 12 inch range, and allows you to receive hands-free stimulation.

Part of the Berman Center Intimate Accessories line. Products designed for women, by women to give you and your partner exactly what you need to optimize your sex life.”

You can also find a complete selection of clothing that vibrates on Sextoys.com.

Some readers will remember a question I asked earlier this week: “Who’s doing it?”  I came across research showing that diet and stress can inhibit the sex drive.  Now, Health.com has an article on 10 reasons why people are not having sex.  Many of the reasons are standard advice, but one – the first one that they list – is usually overlooked, even by me when I write about the subject.

This will make bed a good place to be

The article lists reason 1 as the bed is no longer sexy:

“We hear it over and over again: The bed should be used for sex and sleep only. So why do so many of us insist on bringing third parties—laptops, PDAs, Law & Order—into the boudoir? All that technology and distraction can cause insomnia and put a damper on your sex life. After all, it’s harder to initiate sex if your spouse is hiding behind a newspaper or glued to the TV or if your hands are busy exploring the Web rather than his body.”

That looks like great first advice.  If the bed is cluttered with work or other things, it’s hard to imagine anyone being interested in sex.  So clean off the bed as a first step to fire things up.  Better yet, put one of these into the bed to get things going with even more fun!

Strict Leather 4 Strap

You don’t have to dread the dog days of Summer, if you get a cool new dildo at a price that will keep your wallet from overheating.  We’re offering a 10% discount on your order through August 31st.  All you have to do is enter summer_savings in the offer code box at checkout!

And we did mention dildos.  Check out the Strict Leather 4 Strap Ultimate Dildo Harness:

“Very secure and adjustable, the Strict Leather 4-Strap Ultimate Dildo Harness is an attractive harness at an affordable price. The classic version of this harness has one strap in the back that covers the genital/anal cleft in g-string fashion, but this version is made with 2 straps in back that wrap around the buttocks, leaving the genitals and ass exposed.

It is adjustable in several different ways for perfect fit and dildo placement. Standard ring size is 1.75 inches in diameter, which should fit most pliable dildos from 1.5 inches to 2 inches in diameter. The rings are held in place by snaps in the leather straps. For very large or very small dildos, it is also possible to substitute different sized rings. Now made in one size that fits waist measurements from 26-40 inches.”

Use your discount to add some serious spice to your next play session with this incredible harness, or find the perfect toy for your taste in our inventory of nearly 20,000 products.

A commonly held belief, that is incorrect, is that all sex toys are designed for smaller people.  Full figured women, or BBW – if you prefer – have many options these days.  Manufacturers are quite smart and know when a market is there for products, and they fill it up with products.  So, if you don’t look like Gwyneth Paltrow, it doesn’t mean you can’t have sexy fun with your beautiful body.

Wedding Bands Babydoll

And Sextoys.com carries a full line of products specifically made for sexy, curvy people.

Think you can’t find lingerie for your sexy figure?  Think again.  Dream Girls has a complete line of lingerie that brings out the best in a full figure.  Like the Wedding Bands Babydoll:

“This lycra net babydoll night dress is pure seducing. It has a see-thru body with a small oval shaped cut out in the center of the bust and a hanging bow in the center. The dress has a flirty ruffle hem and a pearl trimmed detail back. It comes with the matching thong. Made of 90 percent nylon and 10 percent spandex.”

You can find a good selection of lingerie and even costumes designed to bring out the best in every curve.  The fact is, you’ll love the way you look in these sexy designs.

And accessories?  If you’ve ever fretted about finding the right compliment to make that outfit for the special date go from gorgeous to super sexy, we have you covered there too.

Consider the Moulin Sheer Thigh High stockings, which add ultra sexy flair.

Moulin Sheer Thigh High

“Moulin- These black sheer thigh highs come with a ravishing back seam. You can wear them with any sexy lingerie to add some spice to it, or simply wear them with any outfit to add some urban edge!

(Thong not included)

100 percent nylon

Size: Queen”

You can find a complete listing of Lingerie, Hosiery and Costumes for curvy people here.

For the guys who are feeling left out, I have good news for you.  Manufacturers haven’t forgotten you either.  You can find a good selection of clothing in the extra large sizes, like these mesh shorts.  And you can even find great fetish wear, like this Strict Leather harness designed for the XL body.

But why stop at sexy clothing?  You’ve probably seen the vibes that are designed to fit in a thong, but you probably noticed that many were made on the tiny side.

Fantasy Panty

Well, they aren’t all that way anymore, Pipedream has joined in the celebration of curves with the Remote Control Fantasy Panty for the full figured person.

“This is one remote you will both enjoy! This discreet, waterproof bullet is quiet enough to wear the panties out on the town and no one but you and your lover will know.

Insert the bullet into the slot in the panty plug and get set for incredibly powerful vibrations. The panty holds it perfectly in place. Your lover will thrill at the thought of turning you on from across the room as you quiver with anticipation!”

Think about it, you can have the fun you may have thought was impossible only a short while ago.  We get it.  People come in all shapes and sizes, and we try to cater to each individual.  You are unique, and you deserve unique toys to spice up your play time.

I have a guess as to what you are thinking: You’re thinking that it is swell that new products are available, but what about the traditionally small minded products that will never make it into your play space, much less your imagination?  You can let go of that worry too!

The Deluxe Swing

Even Swings are being designed for fuller figures!  The older models were designed with strict weight limits that basically eliminated the idea for many people.  The Deluxe Swing made by Rachel’s Pleasures won’t limit the fun you can have.

“The Ultimate flying sex trapeze! A household must for a one-of-a-kind swinging good time. Holds up to 400 pounds with heavy duty construction. Features machine washable pieces.

The Ultimate flying sex trapeze has been improved to include a wider swing base and includes a bungee loop to allow bounce action.”

Or, if you’ve ever fantasized about strap on play, or pegging, Pipedream has the Plus Size Lovers Strap On for you:

“Finally, a real-size strap-on for full-figured women! The Plus-Size Strap-on flatters and fits women with curves, using an adjustable nylon waistband that easily accommodates up to size 48 inch hips.

A strong rubber O-ring comfortably holds the dong in place when the action heats up, while the suction-base jelly dong securely stays put. The genuine leather harness easily adjusts to fit varying sizes, making it the most versatile strap-on set on the market. Go ahead, explore your Fetish Fantasies!”

So get ready to rethink what you “know” about sex toys.  The market is headed in your curvy direction, and we’re happy to offer you a complete selection of toys and accessories to give you the fun that you deserve.  We hope you’ll take some time to browse our site and see all of the quality products that are designed for full, beautiful figures, and find the products that bring out your sexiest individual qualities.

The fun is there for the having.  All you have to do is a little shopping!

High stress can make these unnecessary

Almost everywhere these days, you’ll see articles about sex and sexuality, but who’s having sex?  Many less people than you would imagine.  Chantelle Drobot, writing for Alive Magazine, says that while talk about sex is plentiful, sex itself is not in the plans for many people each day.

In fact, the numbers are fairly surprising:

“Research indicates that 43 percent of women report problems with sexual performance or enjoyment. What may be more surprising is that approximately 31 percent of men are avoiding extra-curricular activities in the bedroom due to some type of sexual dysfunction.”

Before we go any further, our regular readers know that we always offer this advice: If you believe you are, or are experiencing some form of sexual dysfunction, we strongly urge you to seek assistance from a certified medical or clinical professional.  In some cases, sexual dysfunction can be a symptom of a more serious medical problem.

Drobot lists stress and unhealthy eating as principal factors in the current phenomena.  And that’s fairly common in many cases.  Taking some time to relieve stress, eating healthy and exercising can lead to better sex and more frequent sex.  She also suggests food sources rich in Zinc as good choices to spur things on.

Anyone who has been under stress knows that it can ruin more than just sex.  So take it easy, relax, do some exercise and get your life (including your sex life) back on track.  Then you’ll enjoy these great sex toys!

This is not a Bonobo

As some of you may have figured out by now, we never get tired of talking about orgasms.  And following up on a post about Immaculate Orgasms, I found more information about how to get things going, so to speak.  Some of you may remember that I was stunned by the fact that visualizing a walk on the beach could lead to an orgasmic experience.

Well, thank goodness scientific resources are being dedicated to help us understand these things.  Women’s Health recently published a story about what turns women on.  You can read the full article here.  This is the excerpt I found most interesting:

“One of the most intriguing research nuggets to emerge: While male sexuality is fairly predictable—they tend to be aroused by naked women and naked women hooking up with other naked women—female sexuality is stimulated by a surprisingly wide array of turn-ons. Meredith Chivers, Ph. D., an assistant professor of psychology at Queens University in Kingston, Ontario, calls this “the nonspecificity of women’s sexual arousal.” Chivers created a buzz with a study in which she showed both men and women a variety of sexually explicit images—nude male and female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex, and sex between bonobos (a particularly frisky species of ape)—while measuring physiological signs of genital arousal as well as their subjective feelings of desire.

For the guys, the findings were straightforward enough: The straight men in the study were physically aroused by women, gay men were aroused by men, and neither group felt any stirrings for the apes. The men’s physical reactions (erections) were in agreement with what they reported being turned on by.”

We’re getting closer to the point here.  Of course guys are fairly predictable, and my guess is a couple of them had to ponder calculus equations during the Bonobo scenes to keep from giving the wrong impressions.  It doesn’t take much to stir a guy’s feelings, or terminate them in a heartbeat.  But what about women?  The article continues.

“The women in Chivers’s study were aroused by all the images—but that doesn’t mean they desired to have sex with the people (or animals) they saw. “Women have the capacity to get turned on by a broad range of things,” she says. “This is normal and not necessarily a challenge to sexual identity.”

While it may not challenge sexual identities, it can definitely confuse a partner.  Some of you may wonder where I’m heading with all of this.  I’m heading back to square one, where we always head when things get confusing.

Sexuality and arousal are among the most individual aspects of a person.  I mean, the idea of visualizing a beach for orgasm stunned me.  But on the other hand, what arouses me might raise a few eyebrows.  Sure, you can ask, but I won’t tell here.

And since sex is usually two people getting together for a good time, that means that two individuals have to synchronize their desires if everyone is going to have fun.  That means communication and patience are a big part of making sure a good sexual relationship can happen.  With such diverse points of arousal, men and women need to communicate openly and honestly to get the most from sex.

Or, you can just go solo, visualizing a Bonobo on the beach.  Personally, I’d rather talk things through.

This will not ruin your city

I’m still a little baffled as to why a city would be upset about 18,000 people coming to town and spending thousands of dollars in local businesses, but I guess I’m just a capitalist that way.  Apparently, Edison N.J. wants your business, as long as it isn’t an adult business.  From the Philadelphia Inquirer:

“Officials in a New Jersey town are fighting plans for the return of an erotic convention.

Producers for EXXXOTICA say last year’s expo at Raritan Center in Edison drew 18,000 and they’re planning a bigger event in September.”

In the interest of full disclosure, Sextoys.com attends the EXXXOTICA Convention, and we like getting to meet people there.  We’ll attend this year too, so we hope to meet you in whatever town has the sense to want our money!