A new adult play experiment

You and your partner have decided to try something new.  The same old things aren’t lighting the fires anymore.  You want to try out some erotic bondage.  That’s a great choice for fetish play, and easy enough to do.  But you have to take the time to educate yourself about the ins, outs, do’s and don’ts of erotic bondage to make sure that you get the most from your experience.

Before you start checking the bedposts for strength, you and your partner need to sit down for a quick chat.  A good understanding of each partner’s boundaries is essential to safe bondage play.  You’ll also want a safe word to avoid confusion.  Sometimes fantasies come with a need for the word “No” when a partner doesn’t need it.  A safe word is a totally unrelated word to the scene.

I’ve even heard the word apple used as a safe word.  For a complete discussion, you can see our previous post on the subject.  Once you have the boundaries and structure in place psychologically for safe play, now you can get to the physical aspects.

Be careful and use the right tools

What kind of bondage do you want to try?  A sexy, artistic and non-threatening choice is to use a silk binding sash.  This sort of play highlights the beauty of your partner’s body, without being restrictive in any meaningful way.  This is true light psychological play at it’s finest.

If you want to try a more restrictive style, be careful.  Running down to the hardware store and picking up 300 feet of nylon rope and some ceiling hooks only looks like a good idea to a beginner.  This method gets a rope burned partner and a trip back to boring sex.  Start simply.

Simple cotton rope can be erotic, restrictive and completely safe.  But before you get into tying your partner up, read.  Study the best and safest methods for bondage.  Two Knotty Boys produce a great guide for beginners.

Or you can watch as professional Nina Hartley lays out the basics in Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage.  This DVD has all of the pointers that help you to avoid common mistakes that beginners often make, and how to get the most out of your erotic bondage play.

You can even now get ready made bondage gear that requires nothing more than the manipulation of a velcro strap.  Under the Bed Restraints by SportSheets are a great option for beginners who want to experiment with the sensations, without too much effort.

And finally, don’t be afraid to experiment with adding other imaginative ideas to your erotic bondage play.  You never know what you might like, and with the safety in place up front, you can find all new ways to have fun!

Dull, dull, dull, dull; your adult play time has fallen into a rut and it can’t get up.  You want to have some fun, but you’re not sure where to begin.  You could experiment with new kinds of sexual activity.  You could even throw in some kinky fun.  But the kinky thing does concern you a bit.  After all, you aren’t ready for a stockade, shackles, a spreader bar and a bull whip.

Those who want a whip should click this picture

Going back to our largest sex organ – the brain – we can figure out that our adventurous new sex life needs a little fantasy.  Throwing in a few light bondage toys can bring the fantasy to life without pain, discomfort or too much intensity.

First, what’s the deal with bondage?  Bondage in the usual sense is a part of dominance and submission play.  A submissive agrees to being bound, strictly for the dominant’s pleasure.  But as a part of adult fantasy play, bondage can allow you to explore all kinds of scenarios.

Maybe you want your partner to become the marauding pirate who ties you up and ravishes you.  Or, your partner can be the stranger who seduced you.  Or maybe you could even submit to bondage to excite your partner and show her or him who the boss really is!

Whatever your pleasure, a wide variety of light bondage equipment is available to turn your fantasy into an erotic, exciting adventure.  And when most people think of bondage, the first thing that comes to mind is handcuffs.  Regular metal handcuffs can be dreadfully uncomfortable.  So, why not get some comfortable cuffs for fantasy play?

Zebra Fur Handcuffs

The Zebra Fur Handcuffs are a great option for fun light bondage:

“Get your funky fetish fix with these zebra print fur handcuffs. These padded cuffs won’t irritate your skin with the feel of cold steel, but they’ll keep you in your place, locked up!

Equipped with a quick release mechanism, these cuffs let you off the hook fast when play time is up. They also come with two separate keys, good for accidents and forgetful moments when one key might be lost.”

Handcuffs are only the beginning of the adult play opportunities.  You might want to consider just how kinky you’d like things to get.  If you’re feeling really adventurous, you could try some other ideas.  Bondage Kits are an easy way to get maximum usage of your fantasy imagination.

Why not take your cue from a star? Belladonna’s Bondage Kit is a great choice for people who want to experiment:

“When Belladonna goes out, she goes out in style!!! Presenting Belladonna’s special adventure kit. With real leather, adjustable buckles and the quality construction Doc Johnson is famous for. Get your kit today and see how Belladonna rolls.

Kit includes: Pink leather cuffs with adjustable buckles. Soft ball-gag with adjustable leather strap, Pink G-spot vibe (Waterproof, velvet-touch.)”

One of the reasons we chose to show you this product is because it includes a vibrator.  Don’t forget your old reliables when you are experimenting!

The idea is to get your adult play time into new and exciting fantasies.  The more adventurous can check out our complete fetish sex toy selection.  But if you’re new to fetish play, light bondage toys can add a new thrill to your sex life.  Go ahead, get tied up and enjoy!

Sportscuffs

So you want to experiment with a little light bondage.  Metal handcuffs are great for experts and seasoned players, but a simple latch too far can be painful, and a lost key can turn a sexy playtime into a scene from Mad Max if you aren’t careful.  So consider the Sportscuffs as an alternative that are simple to use, and fun!

From SportSheets:

“Soft yet strong wrist or ankle retraints are made of heavy duty materials, comfortable neoprene backing and easy on easy off velcro closures. Completely adjustable to fit any size wrist or ankle. Also available in purple and red.”

The velcro on and off will save you plenty of headaches.  But the adjustable aspect makes play easier and safer for the wearer.  You’ll love them.  Check out all of our Featured Products.

And, you can add them to your list of up to $1,000 worth of toys in Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

If silence is indeed golden, then this Beginner Ball Gag from our friends at Tantus should be on everyone’s must have list!

Made from silicone which is tasteless and odorless, it is ideal for insertion in the mouth. The Beginner Ball Gag is the perfect choice, as the outer mouth piece is contoured to fit comfortably. The original shape is based on an infant pacifier. The straps are leather that snap off so you can wash the silicone.

It’s boilable, bleachable in a 10% solution, and dishwasher safe. Velcro closures on the straps allow for maximum adjustment for head size and ease of fitting.

If you’re looking for a quality ball gag that’s made to last, this red Tantus Silicone item is one you should definitely consider.

Penis Leash and Collar

Need to keep your partner in line?  Does he tend to get excitable?  Is he unruly and too energetic when he should be in a calm, submissive state?  You don’t need Cesar Milano to come visit and teach him who’s the pack leader, you need a penis leash!  From SportSheets:

“Keep him on a short leash!

Your man’s most personal attribute … right where you want it. At least for now! Safe and easy on/off.”

Add some playful fun to your repetoire with this great little toy.  He’ll be a good boy for you!  Also, check out our other fun products in light bondage.