A new adult play experiment

You and your partner have decided to try something new.  The same old things aren’t lighting the fires anymore.  You want to try out some erotic bondage.  That’s a great choice for fetish play, and easy enough to do.  But you have to take the time to educate yourself about the ins, outs, do’s and don’ts of erotic bondage to make sure that you get the most from your experience.

Before you start checking the bedposts for strength, you and your partner need to sit down for a quick chat.  A good understanding of each partner’s boundaries is essential to safe bondage play.  You’ll also want a safe word to avoid confusion.  Sometimes fantasies come with a need for the word “No” when a partner doesn’t need it.  A safe word is a totally unrelated word to the scene.

I’ve even heard the word apple used as a safe word.  For a complete discussion, you can see our previous post on the subject.  Once you have the boundaries and structure in place psychologically for safe play, now you can get to the physical aspects.

Be careful and use the right tools

What kind of bondage do you want to try?  A sexy, artistic and non-threatening choice is to use a silk binding sash.  This sort of play highlights the beauty of your partner’s body, without being restrictive in any meaningful way.  This is true light psychological play at it’s finest.

If you want to try a more restrictive style, be careful.  Running down to the hardware store and picking up 300 feet of nylon rope and some ceiling hooks only looks like a good idea to a beginner.  This method gets a rope burned partner and a trip back to boring sex.  Start simply.

Simple cotton rope can be erotic, restrictive and completely safe.  But before you get into tying your partner up, read.  Study the best and safest methods for bondage.  Two Knotty Boys produce a great guide for beginners.

Or you can watch as professional Nina Hartley lays out the basics in Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage.  This DVD has all of the pointers that help you to avoid common mistakes that beginners often make, and how to get the most out of your erotic bondage play.

You can even now get ready made bondage gear that requires nothing more than the manipulation of a velcro strap.  Under the Bed Restraints by SportSheets are a great option for beginners who want to experiment with the sensations, without too much effort.

And finally, don’t be afraid to experiment with adding other imaginative ideas to your erotic bondage play.  You never know what you might like, and with the safety in place up front, you can find all new ways to have fun!