Curious about strap-on sex but unsure where to start? Strap-on play is really popular, but before you dive right in and buy some toys, there are a few things you should think about. If you’re looking to play golf, it’s important to research your clubs first if you want to be successful – the same research is required if you want to set the bedroom on fire with a scorchin’ hot strap-on session!

O-Ring Harness

The first thing to consider is whether or not a dildo is compatible with the harness you want to use. There are two basic strap-on systems, the Vac-U-Lock system from Doc Johnson and O-Ring Harnesses.  I personally prefer the O-Ring system because it’s not restricted to one toy company so there’s more variety.  Of course, if you already have a Vac-U-Lock system, don’t worry because they make a wide variety of toys and I’m sure you won’t get bored any time in the near future.

With an O-Ring Harnesses, the dildo is held in place by a ring of plastic, silicone or metal ring that also determines the maximum diameter of the toy used.  If you have a harness with a 1.5 inch o-ring and a dildo with a 2 inch diameter dong, you won’t be able to use them together.  Of course, a number of rigs come with interchangeable o-rings, so you can use different size rings with different dildos.  Since I agree that variety is the spice of life, I think this is a very good thing.

The Mistress By Vixen Creations

Whether you’re thinking about getting your first harness or a seasoned cock slinger, you need a really great dildo to make the most of your strap-on sessions. While a harnesses construction, comfort and effectiveness is really important, you’re not going to maximize the pleasure if you aren’t using the right dick.

Besides size, another really important thing to think about when picking up a new cock for strap-on sex is the design.  If a dildo does not have a flared base like the Mistress pictured here, it will not work with your o-ring harness because there’s nothing to hold it in place!

Of course, you should also consider the material your dong is crafted from.  I’m guessing you’re going to be strapping, so spending a few bucks on a silicone toy that can be sterilized is a great idea.  Silicone is also phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and made to last a lifetime if properly cared for.

If you’re interested in the Vac-U-Lock system, let me tell you a little bit about that.  Doc Johnson’s patented system is known for being really secure.  You don’t have to worry about your dildo slipping out of the harness and it offers a lot of control.  The dildo and harness are connected via their unique plug.

Vac-U-Lock Kit

While the system is very secure, I will remind you once again that it is only compatible with Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock products. They offer everything from vibrating dongs, to double dildos and monster cocks, so there’s plenty of variety, but it is definitely worth thinking about if you already have a few harness compatible dildos you could incorporate into your strap-on sessions.

Finally, regardless of what kind of harness you decide on, take the time to really think about what kind of dildo you want to use and why. If you’re looking to experiment with pegging for the first time, you’re boy will probably be far more receptive if you start off with a smaller toy. If you love g-spot stimulation, make sure your toy is designed to hit that magic button. Of course, take a little time to think about your sexual well-being and choose toys that are made from quality materials.

Strap-on sex is a ton of fun and a great way to change things up in the bedroom. With a little research and an open mind, you’re in for a great time!

Looking for a vibe that’s a little different?  Let me introduce you to Doc Johnson’s Pleasure Ball - a discreet vibe that’s sure to send shivers up and down your body!

It’s multi-speed, waterproof, and made of phthalate-free, non-toxic TPR silicone and a ball to play with.  Roll this bad boy up and down yourself, making sure to linger at all of your most sensative bits, for a full-body experience.

This one is a great gift for a woman who’s new to the sex toy game because it’s totally discreet and non-threatening.  Of course, people who have a trunk full of toys are always looking for something different, so it’s great for them too!

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You should know by now that I love discreet vibes I can travel with and the Go Vibe is another little vibe that’s perfect for throwing in your overnight bag or purse!

My favorite thing about this powerful little vibe is the small price tag.  At just under $7, you can afford to pick up one for you and a lucky friend.

You will be rubbing the tension away in just a snap! Its the mighty mini perfect for personal playtime. Doc Johnson brings you the Go Vibe, a compact, quite and discreet mini vibe that waterproof for fun in and out of the water. Just twist and Go!

Check out the Go Vibe today.  Maybe it’s the final item you need to complete your entry for Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

We’ve been adding a ton of new products to the site lately and this is one that caught my eye this morning.  I’m always interested in new massage oil, because nothing beats a good rub down after a long day. I definitely need to get my hands on a bottle of White Gypsy Massage Oil to check out in the near future after reading about this intriguing organic product.

There are five different scents including Jasmine and Ginger – the two I’m most interested in!  I don’t really know what Frangipani is, so I’ll pass on that one, but if you love the smell of a fresh Frangipani, you should check it out!

Dive into erotic massages with White Gypsy, Doc Johnson’s new organic massage oil. Soft, silky, and made of Macadamia, this massage oil will arouse all of your senses. 5 different scents will tantalize you and your lover. The easy to use pump bottle ensures that you never spill, and always apply just the right amount. Made in the USA, only by Doc Johnson. Your skin will love you for it.

If you’re looking for a new massage oil, why not add this to your entry for Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

Apparently do bring May flowers because I just added a ton of super cute flower themed vibes to the site!  The Petite Flower Daisy G Spot was designed by a woman, and you know she had a woman’s pleasure when crafting this beauty.  With a subtle g-spot curve, this one is sure to please!

Feel the power of flower with the hot and sexy Petite Flowers Daisy G Spot, a fabulous 8 inch Thermoplastic pleaser. A technological wonder with scintillating raised sensual flower design covering to stimulate your inner walls; this fabulous pleasure toy is also waterproof so can be enjoyed in the bath, the shower, and the hot and sexy Jacuzzi.

If you’re had enough of the rain and are ready to celebrate spring and it’s bounty, maybe you should add this one to your list and enter Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

This black leather collar from Doc Johnson is great for all of you who are looking for a new accessory that looks hot and let’s people know you’re game for some kinky fun!  There’s even a ring in back that allows you to attach a leash or whatever else your heart desires.  Form and function in one sexy collar.  The adjustable buckle closure means that it fits neck sizes 14-20 inches.

Of course, if you’re feeling lucky, you can add this Buckle Collar to your wish list and enter Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

Pretty and Pink Double Dildo by Doc Johnson

A great article in the San Fernando Valley Business Journal points out that Doc Johnson doesn’t outsource its production to other countries.  They are committed to making their products in the United States.  That’s a fairly important distinction that we think deserves highlighting.  From the Full Article:

“There were times during the past 33 years when Doc Johnson struggled. California was not the easiest state in which to own a business. There were higher prices and higher wages and a workmen’s compensation system wrought with fraud prior to the reforms brought by Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger.

“Everything I went through, during all that difficult time I wanted to believe in the American system,” Braverman said.

The belief in that system comes perhaps from how it has allowed him to operate a successful company employing more than 500 workers making products that spice up bedroom activities and modeled on body parts of adult performers.”

That’s a great commitment to community and Doc Johnson should be applauded for it.  Check out our complete line of Doc Johnson products.

I was going through our newly added products earlier today and noticed an oldie but goodie that was once gifted to me by a thoughtful friend!

You may ask what’s so great about this bullet vibe? It looks a lot like a million others… Well, let me tell you!  This baby’s escalation patterns are amazing.  My favorite is the last which is like a giant orgasm rollercoaster.  It starts off at the slowest speed before working it’s way to the highest and back down again.  For this girl, it’s a sure fire way straight to Big O-ville.

On top of five speeds there are five total patterns that keep things interesting, to say the least.  It runs on 3AA, so it’s pretty powerful for a bullet vibrator.

If you’re in the market for a high-end bullet, I can definitely recommend the I-Vibrator Egg by Doc Johnson.  I’ve had mine for years and I still can’t get enough!

In today’s society, almost everything is portable. You can check your email, download the latest Springsteen album and update your twitter account from your phone. While I can do without many of modern lives conveniences, one thing I rely on is a mini vibe that can accompany me on a business trip or vacation.

Whether you’re looking to get a little kinky in a bathroom bar, or stuck in a hotel room in the middle of nowhere, a discreet vibe is a must in my book!

One classic vibe that’s perfect for the bottom of your purse is Doc Johnson’s White Nights Velvet Touch pocket rocket.  It’s small, cheap and packs a punch!  My first vibe was a pocket rocket and while I’ve definitely branched out over the years, I still make sure I have one in my arsenal!

If you’re looking for something even smaller, you can always pick up the Pocket Rocket Junior – because apparently the four inch original wasn’t small enough! This one is only two inches tall and comes with a cap that will keep it clean in the bottom of your gym bag. I have a friend who has hers attached to her keychain – you know, just in case.

Both toys are made of phthalate-free plastic and waterproof, which could definitely come in handy!

If you’re looking for something a little less obvious, the Maia Discreet Massager from the Berman Center Intimate Accessories line might be just the vibe for you! It would like right at home next to your keys and eyeliner in the bottom of a purse, because to the unassuming eye it looks like another tube of lipstick!

This vibe is also made out of plastic and, unlike either pocket rock, is a multi-speed toy. This gives you the option of mixing it up a bit! Finally, and this is a huge deal if you’ve ever stolen the batteries out of your tv remote in frustration, the Maia ships with a set of batteries so you’re ready to go right out of the box!

There are a million and one options out there for women who are looking for a vibe to travel with. I’ve talked about a couple of the basics, but don’t fret if they aren’t what you’re looking for, just check out our full listing of Discreet Vibes!