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It’s Monday and we’re all probably trying to shake off the woes of another weekend slipping through our grasps.  For some of us, Sunday was a blur and we have the headaches to prove it.  Others of us had a dull weekend filled with duties and chores.  Yet others had a hodgepodge and just want to kick the Monday blues.

Time for a Handie

One day to help a guy get over the dreaded “Mondays” is to not let something slip through your grasp.  That’s right, today we’re talking about the woefully underrated, and seldom enjoyed hand job.

Some of you may find that a boring idea, but let me stop you there.  An average guy has been the recipient of hundreds, if not thousands (depending on his sex drive), of self administered hand jobs. Guys KNOW hand jobs. They like them. If you can administer one properly, he’ll be seriously impressed!

But a partner giving a hand job has many options available that aren’t when the guy is flying solo.  Let’s look at the options.

Option 1 – Old Reliable

Sometimes simple is best. There isn’t a swinging dick on the planet who will deny that a good old fashioned monkey-spank produces good results. If you’re new to the hand job, a good stroking is a great place to start.

Details: This one really is simple.  All you have to do is get a suitable grip and start to stroke up and down the shaft. The results will be exactly what your partner wants.

Manufacturer’s Notes: You can spice this one up by showing the boys some love.  Lift the shaft out of your way and have at them with some oral affection.  You’ll hear the groans and grunts of happiness if you’re doing it right.

Option 2 – The Herky Jerk

Edging is something many guys enjoy.  Basically, the idea is to get right to the point of orgasm and to stop, cool down and then repeat.  When it’s time to blow, the reaction is volcanic.  An edged orgasm is one of the most intense a person can have.

Recommended for the Herky Jerk

Details: This one requires a lighter touch and you’re going to need time.  Want a quickie?  If so, forget The Herky Jerk.  You have to spend time building up the heat and then letting it dissipate.  A good lube is perfect for The Herky Jerk, like the one we recommend here.

Manufacturer’s Notes: You’re absolutely going to have to communicate well to “pull off” a Herky Jerk.  You have to know when he’s close, so that you can ease the pressure.  This is a great time to kiss and get some reciprocation!

Option 3 – The Kiss of Little Death

The French have long referred to orgasm as the “little death.”  Sounds kind of depressing, unless you think of the rush and concluding temporary exhaustion, which then makes the phrase more sensible. But you can make the little death a little more bearable with a few oral pleasures added in.

Details: This is a classic hand job with a light touch of oral (EMPHASIS: LIGHT) pleasuring added in.  You can use a flavored oral sex lube to add to your pleasure while giving him his. The key is to tease the glans (head) of the penis as you gently caress the shaft.  Doing this over and over again in little teases throughout will drive him wild.

Manufacturer’s Notes: You could end up with more than a mouthful using this technique.  Usually the orgasm comes on very rapidly because of the multiple stimulation techniques. If you’re in a safe relationship and ok with that, enjoy!  If not, watch carefully for your partner’s expressions and have him communicate so that you know when it’s coming – literally.

Option 4 – The Double Fister

If you’re in a relationship with a partner who has a little extra artillery range (very well endowed), this is an option that will fire his gun. Two are usually better than one, and this is no exception.

Details: You’ll need a little coordination for this one.  Get both hands on the shaft with the appropriate grip and stroke them with synchronized movement.  You’ll know you’re off sync by his screams (if you go without lube), so try to keep things together.

Manufaturer’s Notes: Make sure your grip is the same on both hands, to keep the pressure constant. With this one, you can also switch hands off to give yourself a break.

The most important aspect to hand jobs is to freestyle.  Add your own unique touch to give your partner a signature handie.  The best part of all is that if your grip matches your partner’s desired stimulation, you can’t mess up a hand job.

So get a fist full and happy stroking!

We’ve received many requests lately from customers asking which is the best toy for them.  It’s understandable that people can be overwhelmed with the number of sex toys that are on the market.  But it is also tough to answer that question.  If someone asked you which dildo was right for them, where do you begin? That’s a tough question.

Think about purchasing a vehicle, for instance.  A large family might want a mini-van, a carpenter would probably want a truck, some people buy cars to show off, others want hybrids for good gas mileage.  The point is, when you’re ready to buy a vehicle, you think about why you want a vehicle before you go shopping.

The last time we wrote about this subject was January, in a post titled Which Toy is Best?.  And if you’re looking for a bunch of extra details, that’s a great post to read.  But today we’re going to simplify the process (just in time for your holiday shopping).  Here are the basic questions you should ask yourself before you make a purchase:

1. What turns me on? The first key to selecting a sex toy is knowing what stimulation “does it” for you.  For women, do you like clitoral stimulation, G Spot stimulation, penetration, or all of the above?  For men, do you need something to help you take it slow and easy and enjoy the ride, or do you need something for a quickie?  Also guys, do you know the joys of prostate massage?  And for couples, what do you want to do together to spice things up, and what sex toy will accomplish that goal?

2. When and where will I use it? It’s pointless to purchase a sex toy that is impractical for your life.  Say you share a house or apartment and want something you can use privately.  What good is it to buy a vibrator that is extraordinarily loud?  Or you want something to use while you bathe or shower, but you buy something that isn’t water proof.  That doesn’t make much sense either.  Always make sure that a sex toy’s features will match up with the realities of your lifestyle.

3. What will it take to maintain it? Silicone, glass and hard plastic sex toys clean up in a snap, are usually very durable and require much less maintenance than most other materials.  They also last longer.  If you get a porous, or skin-like sex toy, are you willing to spend the time and energy to clean it properly, and store it according to manufacturer specifications?

4. Will this affect my body? If you have a latex allergy, you don’t want a rubber toy.  Remember also that your nose is a part of your body.  Some sex toys don’t have any smell associated with them (yes, silicone, glass and hard plastics – again).  Other sex toys do.  Jelly sex toys and rubber sex toys can carry strong smells in some instances.  You don’t want the smell of your dong to ruin the moment.

5. What am I willing to pay? Notice that this question comes last.  It’s pointless to buy an inexpensive sex toy if you can’t use it because it’s too loud, too big, too weak, not waterproof, and the list could go on.  Once you know what you want, then you can price shop.  For a first sex toy, it is always better to spend a few dollars more and get a high quality product.  The healthiness and happiness it can bring is far preferable to a few dollars saved leading to massive disappointment.

We hope this helps you in your shopping.  Good luck!

Guys who have experienced an orgasm via prostate massage can tell you that a prostate massager could easily become a man’s best friend.  And women or men who know how to administer a prostate massage can easily overtake the prostate massager on that guy’s cool list.  But how do you really have fun with a prostate massage?  We have some tips to get you going.

This is the part where, being anal retentive about things, we remind you to go see a doctor and make sure your prostate is in good health before you try this.  An inflamed prostate receiving any pressure at all will definitely make your day a painful one.  Also, you don’t want to cause further injury if your prostate is not healthy.  Get a clean bill of health before you give it a go, especially if you are over 40 years old.

So we’ll start with a little information about the prostate.  From WebMD:

“The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The urethra runs through the center of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis, letting urine flow out of the body.

The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen.

The vasa deferentia (singular: vas deferens) bring sperm from the testes to the seminal vesicles. The seminal vesicles contribute fluid to semen during ejaculation.”

Aneros Helix

That’s the long way of saying that when you ejaculate, the prostate is intimately involved.  And, as a side note, frequent ejaculation might actually be good for your prostate.  That’s where a prostate massage can be an added treat.

Now, in some fetish play, prostate massage is used for creating ejaculation alone – or a “ruined orgasm.”  If you are into orgasm denial, that’s your ticket.  But, if like me, you kind of consider an orgasm a fun part of sex, then you might want to go for the prostate massage – masturbation combo.  Or you could even go for the mother of all orgasmic explosions with the prostate massage – perineum massage – oral sex package that will leave you as a collection of jumbled, happy nerve endings.

Here are your tips to get going.  First, start small.  Have your partner use her or his finger to gently massage the prostate.  Simple strokes along it are best for a smooth experience.  I strongly recommend a healthy dose of water based lubricant and a rubber glove for the first time.  And make sure all fingernails are neatly trimmed.  Let your partner massage your prostate while you masturbate.  This will get you comfortable with the stimulation.

Next, experiment with internal massage versus a massage of the perineum alone.  The perineum is a stretch of skin between the testicles and anus.  The perineum is directly below the prostate.  You can do a perineum massage first, if you like, but I always suggest internal first to get a feel for anal stimulation.  You may find that the perineum massage is a better way for you, but remember that the urethra runs along the perineum and some people find it uncomfortable to get that kind of massage.

After that, you might want to try out a prostate massager.  Many vibrate, some offer multiple massage points, but almost all of them function better than anything else for a great prostate massage.  Again, start small.  The last thing you want to do is start anal play with the largest sex toy you can find.

Next, always remember to pay close attention to your comfort level.  If something starts to feel uncomfortable, stop the massage.  This is important.  You can cause injury to yourself if you don’t pay close attention.

And finally, some of you have been waiting to hear how to get the best of all combos.  That’s something you and your partner will need to discover together.  Good luck and enjoy the journey!

Flexi Felix Anal Toy

A common question that relates to adult play asks whether or not anal stimulation can lead to orgasm.  We’ve covered all kinds of orgasms in this blog, from what seem to be random orgasms, to Extended Massive Orgasm.  And as regular readers know, different people will experience stimulation in many different ways.  Orgasms can occur because of a variety of stimulations.

But can you achieve an anal orgasm because of anal stimulation.  Our answer?  Sure, why couldn’t you have an orgasm because of anal stimulation?

As we covered in our discussion of analingus, not all anal stimulation is safe, so you have to be careful when you engage in anal play or anal sex.  But most anal stimulation is perfectly safe, provided you take the proper precautions for you and your partner.  Let’s go over a few points to keep things fun.

Anal Sex – Basic Steps for Fun and Safety

First, everyone has to relax.  Your first anal experience should be an easy, comfortable time.  Going straight from never having had anal sex to full blown penetration could turn into a painful lesson in patience.  Taking a few steps one by one is a good plan for your first time.  Relaxing could be as simple as a good massage, lots of foreplay and even a tasty adult beverage before you get started.  Once everyone is “in the groove,” you can proceed to experimenting.

Next, have a good supply of lubricant on hand.  The anus provides no natural lubrication, so you need to use as much lube as it takes to make things comfortable (that amount will vary from one person to the next).  If you are using latex gloves or condoms, make sure that you ONLY use a water-based lubricant.  If you use oil or silicone based lube on latex, you’ll be in for a melting, gooey surprise.

Why would latex gloves be involved?  Easy, you might want to get your partner used to anal stimulation gently.  Using a single finger for gentle penetration allows your partner to get used to the sensation.  Another option is to get an anal beginner’s kit that has graduated anal plugs so that you can take your time and go easy.

Juli Ashton Anal Beginner Kit

One other important idea: Masturbating your partner, or having your partner masturbate as you experiment with these sensations allows your partner to create an association between anal sex and orgasm.  This can lead to even more intense orgasms as the anal stimulation becomes more familiar.

Those are the standard rules for getting started.  Now we’ll break things up a little for women and men.  The approaches can be different for either sex, so we’ll separate them to make it simple.

Anal Sex Ideas for Women

Four Seasons Condoms

Once you’ve taken the time to become accustomed to anal stimulation, you’ll probably want to branch into anal sex. Most people automatically assume that this means hit the hands and knees and go straight to doggie style anal sex.  Often, that’s the worst way to get started.  Women might want to start anal sex in a classic “Cowgirl” position, where the woman is on top and in control of the penetration.

Missionary is also another great option for anal sex.  It limits the depth of penetration, and it’s definitely more intimate than doggie style as you and your partner try a whole new experience.  Again, during anal sex it is perfectly fine to masturbate, and some people swear by Bullets to achieve intense, body shaking orgasms.

You may find that you don’t need a bullet or masturbation.  It is quite possible to have an orgasm with only anal stimulation alone.  There are no rules, other than to be safe and have fun.

And if things get uncomfortable, just stop and come back to it another time!

Anal Sex Ideas for Men

Your new best friend Bob

You’re too macho for back door play, eh?  All that tells us is that you haven’t had a prostate massage induced orgasm.  Have one of those and get back to us on the macho stuff (we suspect you’ll be asking our experts which prostate massager is right for you).  Anal stimulation is great for women, but some men just can’t get enough either.

Some gay and bisexual men enjoy anal play together, but you don’t have to be gay or bisexual to enjoy anal stimulation.  The growing number of men buying strap ons tells us that straight men have caught on to the joys of anal sex too.  Now, here’s where we find a common bickering point.  Is there a difference between an anal orgasm and a prostate orgasm?  Do you really care?  We don’t.

If something is safe and makes you come, it doesn’t really matter what caused it scientifically.  Guys, you differ from women slightly.  The prostate is just inside your anus, right above your perineum (the area between your scrotum and anus).  It pays to be careful around the prostate.  If you’re going to have your partner use fingers for warm up, watch out for fingernails!  And remember that the prostate is sensitive.

Prostate massagers can give you a knee buckling, drooling and mind numbing orgasm like you’ve never experienced.  If your partner learns how to manipulate one to please you, be careful.  She’ll have the power to make you her love slave.  The rules on prostate massage are pretty simple.  If you have prostate issues, don’t do it.  Otherwise, you’ll want gentle, steady strokes on your prostate until you come.  It takes varying times, but if you’re patient, you’ll get the big prize.

Take a break from being the big doggie and give her some fun too

Same as with anal sex, you can masturbate during anal stimulation to get the best of both worlds.  In fact, you can folow the same rules as a woman.  Heck, give her a strap on, lube up, grab a masturbator and get completely freaky.  You can use your imagination to have a ball.  Plus, she might like a break from the mundane and an opportunity to play the role of Big Doggie!

Enjoy it, and if it gets uncomfortable, stop and come back to it later.

So we know anal orgasm is possible.  We know anal sex can be perfectly safe.  We know that many people enjoy it all the time.  All that’s left is for you to get busy enjoying it!

This is a G Spot sex toy

So the debate rages on about whether or not the G Spot exists.  From our standpoint, while the empirical data may be less than overwhelming, the number of G Spot sex toys that are manufactured and sold make a solid practical argument that someone is getting stimulation from the area Dr. Grafenberg first discussed. But once in a while, it’s good to look at recent discussions on the subject, especially if you want to experiment with this popular form of stimulation.

A recent article contained this sentence as its thesis: “Unlike men, women can orgasm in many different ways.”  It then went on to list different anatomical features like, clitoris, vagina and G Spot.  People who have read our work know that the article was then tossed aside.  The reason?  The clitoris and G Spot (such as it is considered to exist) are parts of the vagina!  Why go through all of the complex possible permutations when one fact stands out?  That fact is that each person finds a specific stimulation satisfying and can achieve orgasm through it.

Of all of the big mistakes a person can make, over-complicating sexual sensations is one of the biggest that can damage adult play time fun.

WebMD has a great section on this subject, which we think summarizes the argument over the G Spot very well:

“Prosterman and others point out the importance of thinking of the G-spot in context — that it may be an extension of the clitoral anatomy, which extends back into the vaginal canal. Kerner writes that the G-spot may be ‘nothing more than the roots of the clitoris crisscrossing the urethral sponge.’

Helen O’Connell, MD, head of the neurourology and continence unit at the Royal Melbourne Hospital Department of Urology in Australia, says, ‘The G-spot has a lot in common with Freud’s idea of vaginal orgasms. It is a sexual concept, this time anatomical, that results in confusion and has resulted in the misconception that female sexuality is extremely complex.’”

The article also contains this:

A G Spot sex toy for couples

“In the end, whether this debated locus of pleasure is fact or fiction may not matter that much. O’Connell, who is also co-author of a 2005 Journal of Urology study on the anatomy of the clitoris, says that focusing on the G-spot to the exclusion of the rest of a woman’s body is ‘a bit like stimulating a guy’s testicles without touching the penis and expecting an orgasm to occur just because love is present.’ She says focusing on the inside of the vagina to the exclusion of the clitoris is ‘unlikely to bring about orgasm. It is best to think of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina as one unit because they are intimately related.’”

Ok, so what is the G Spot and where is it?  The G Spot is an area which many women claim, if stimulated properly, can lead to intense orgasm.  What it is, we aren’t qualified to say, though the base of the clitoris sounds like a good guess, since the clitoris can have a shaft of one to three inches and the G Spot is generally agreed to be located two to three inches inside the vagina on the upper wall.

Do you have a G Spot?  That’s the question that you must answer.  Experimenting with sensations is a great way to see whether or not this area adds something more to your orgasm experience.  As we mentioned before, there are many quality G Spot sex toys designed to create that type of stimulation.

Let’s say for the sake of discussion that someone scientifically proves that the G Spot is a myth.  If you achieve intense orgasms by stimulating the area one to three inches inside on the vagina’s upper wall, does it matter?  Learning what works for you is an art, not a science.

So enjoy your next orgasm, wherever you find it.  And don’t be afraid to experiment.  Why should you be, it isn’t exactly a science!

Anyone who has read our blog knows that we are big fans of Tantus sex toys.  Sarah loves them, Ginger Leigh wishes for them, and I’m a big fan of their cock rings.  Now, Sextoys.com has created our first Featured Manufacturer Page for Tantus products.  You’ll find all of the Tantus products we carry there.  Soon we’ll be adding detailed product information on the page as well.

You can find great products that are body friendly there, like the Feeldoe Slim:

“Petite for more options!

The Feeldoe Slim is easier to hold and control than the original; its 10% reduction in the shaft means less weight for the driver. Advise your customers to put a drop of lube in the vibrator cavity for easier removal.

The world’s first harness-less strap-on for women. The Feeldoe? was designed and created by a woman, for women. The bulb is inserted into the vagina and the dong extends out at a wonderful natural angle to penetrate a partner. There are ridges at the base of the dong for clitoral stimulation when thrusting. Also the bulb is a perfect handle for solo play. Because it’s silicone it’s flexible, warms to body heat, hypoallergenic and hygienic (boilable and bleachable in a 10% solution).

And there is a removable bullet for added stimulation. Micro batteries are included. Bulb measures 2.5 inches in length and 1.5 inches in width. Dong measures 5.5 inches in length and 1.25 inches in width.”

Check out the Tantus Page for more great, healthy products for your sexual health and well being.

I’m a firm believer in taking care of my body.  I watch what I eat, do cardio five days a week and even have one of those weird pull up bars in my office door.  While this is all well and good, it’s not enough.  I know I have to work out my PC muscle in order to maximize my orgasmic potential an you should too!  Of course, there are a lot of health benefits to doing kegels besides sexual strength, but I personally think that’s a pretty good reason to do my daily workout.

The Juno Weighted Pelvic Exerciser was created by the fine folks at the Berman Center to add resistance to kegel exercises.  This kegel style exerciser is made of  phthalate-free Lucite with increasing weights for the woman who wants to continuously strengthen her PC muscle.  It is part of the Berman Center Intimate Accessories line – Products designed for women, by women to give you and your partner exactly what you need to optimize your sex life.

To learn more about kegel exercises and the importance of strengthening your PC muscle, take a look at an earlier post on pelvic exercises for women.

If you’re committed to staying in shape, check out our great collection of pelvic exercisers.

You’ve got cloth bags in your trunk for trips to the grocery store, buy organic and carpool with a friend to work.  The next logical step to reduce your carbon footprint is to go green in the bedroom!  Today’s suggestion for everyone who’s interested in saving the earth one sex toy at a time is to consider an aluminum toy because, besides being the most abundant metal in the earth’s crust, aluminum just happens to make a kick ass sex toy!

I always put safety first and am thrilled to say that aluminum is a super safe material.  It’s phthalates-free, non-porous and can be sterilized pretty easily.  Plus, if you’re crazy and want to get rid of your aluminum toy, it can be recycled!  Imagine the look on your garbage dudes face when he pulls your old dildo out of a blue bin!

Now that I’ve got your attention, let me introduce you to the Alumina Flow.  This purple dildo from our friends at Tantus is made out of 100% aeronautic grade aluminum and a great toy for those of you who like temperature play.  Just run this one under hot or cold water before the festivities and let the fun begin!

My favorite thing about the four toys in the Alumina line is that they are all made out of two separate pieces that screw together in the middle.  That means if you have two of these awesome dildos, you can mix and match to make new toys!

If you’re looking for something with a little buzz, check out the Alumination Vibe from Doc Johnson.

A high end pleasure object crafted in sensually smooth metal, the Alumination vibrator is made with lightweight aluminum and a tri-speed motor for a unique experience. The Alumination is also waterproof for erotic bath time pleasures.

Press the button on the base to switch between low, medium, and high speeds. This vibrator is compatible with all adult lubricants, and phthalate free for safe and healthy use. This sex toy holds heat and cold well for temperature play, and features quiet operation for discreet enjoyment.

Overall, aluminum is an earth-friendly and body safe material to make high end toys from.  If you’re looking to try something new, I highly recommend you check out the aluminum products we offer!

We talk Tantus up a lot on the site – mostly because their products are super rad. Here’s a quick video they put together that says it way better than I probably do.

Check out Tantus Silicone on the site and don’t forget about Ginger’s Contest!