I’m just one of the legion of ladies who LOVES porn. While there are plenty of movies I have no interest in, there are a ton of great studios created women friendly porn that is super sexy and a great way to explore your own sexuality. I can’t even begin to tell you all of the things I’ve learned about myself from watching XXX films.

I thought it would be a lot of fun to pair up some of my favorite toys with great adult movies.  Today I want to talk about G Spot Play.  For those of you who don’t know much about this hot spot for many ladies, here’s a quick break down.

The G-Spot is an area on the front wall of a woman’s vagina that becomes highly sensitive when aroused.  One easy way to find this hot spot is to to insert two fingers into your vagina while lying on your back and curl them up in a “come here” motion. The G-spot will become engorged and slightly hard when a woman is aroused. Once you know where your g-spot is, it’s time to get real about exploring and that’s where a quality toy and educational DVD come into play.

Every one is always talking about this magical spot and any woman who doesn’t know about g-spot stim definitely needs to explore a bit.  If you don’t know much about the graftenberg spot and female ejaculation, this educational dvd from Access Instructional Media is a good place to start.

New, never-before seen intervaginal photography proves the G Spot exists and what it looks like at orgasm. Hear clearly explained at last what female ejaculation really is and what it isn’t. Watch women gush – ejaculate – as their G Spot is triggered.

To go along with this DVD, let me tell you about my favorite dildo for g-spot stimulation, Lelo’s Ella. This is a relatively small toy, but it’s built perfectly for this type of play. I love the fact that it’s made out of medical grade silicone, so it can be sterilized and is phthalate-free.

For the most sustained and creative enjoyment, use her in joint play with LILY / NEA / YVA to combine clitoral pleasure and intense sensations. Beautifully smooth and seamless, ELLA is a joy to the eye as well as the body, her two individually crafted ends allowing a varied experience and a fuller exploration of the users desires.

Like all Lelo toys, the Ella comes in a really classy box that is perfect for storage.  What’s even better is that it comes with one year warranty!  I have a lot of freaking dildos and this is the one to buy if you’re looking to hit your g-spot!

While you’d be lucky to pick up either of these great items, there’s no denying that they go together!  If you’re serious about getting to know your body a little better,  picking up this duo is a great place to start!

Almost everyone knows that sex toys are a great option when you want a little “alone” time during adult play.  And we can’t argue that sometimes, me, myself and I are great play partners who know all the right spots.  But we also know that two people who are having fun can strategically employ sex toys to make orgasms that much more powerful.

Sarah did a great post on kits for couples, and there are great options in it.  Kits of toys definitely get you plenty of bang for your buck.  We also have some other toys that can put lots of bang back into play time.  And for a limited time, you can use the offer code toysfor2 to get a 10% discount on purchases over $30.  Here’s a couple of banging sex toys that qualify for the couples’ offer code!

The Super Sex Sling by SportSheets:

Super Sex Sling

“The Sportsheets Super Sex Sling can help ease you comfortably into new erotic discoveries. This model has a deluxe comfort neck rest, plus extended straps and supports. Fully adjustable.”

This rig retails for $64.89.

Let’s face it, there are many slings out there, and most work fine.  But you add serious posh with this sling.  The padded neck support and ankle cuffs take all of the work out of maintaining the perfect position.  And both partners get to have fun without worrying about angles, sweet spots or anything else.  Just remember to use the offer code toysfor2 to get your discount.

Beginner Strap On For Him

Fetish Fantasy Beginners Strap On For Him:

“Perfect for rear-end rookies! You have teased him with your finger and your tongue, now he wants more. Give your boy-toy the anal satisfaction he craves with this petite 4.24 long curved jelly dong.

The shaft has a diameter ranging up to 1.25. The cleverly curved design will reach his sweet spot with ease. The durable 4-way nylon straps for the harness easily adjust to fit most, while the plush-lined harness comfortably stays in place when the action heats up.

The harness includes three interchangeable rubber rings of varying sizes to hold most of your favorite harness compatible toys. A free satin mask is included for keeping you or your lover guessing as to what comes next. Strap-on the passion and explore your fantasies.”

This awesome strap on retails for $38.89, but you can take 10% off with the offer code toysfor2 while this deal lasts.

This year is wrapping up quickly and I wanted to highlight my favorite products of 2009. Here’s a list of toys that have rocked my world, porn that I watch over and over again and things I really think every one should own!

1. We Vibe – This little guy took the industry by storm this year with good reason. This is amazing silicone vibe is is designed to stimulate a woman’s clit and g-spot while she’s being penetrated! I can’t even begin to express how fantastic this is. It’s phthalate-free, rechargeable and a toy I find myself reaching for all the time. I wish every woman would wake up on January 1st to find one of these on her dresser. 2010 would be one hell of a year!

2. Scrubs: A XXX Parody – There were so many hilarious spoofs released this year, but my favorite was Scrubs. It is totally hilarious and James Deen is so freaking hot that I find myself watching scenes over and over again.

3. Pink Water – You know I love lube, and this year I had a chance to check out a few from Empowered Products. They definitely do lube right. I find myself using Pink Water all the time, mostly because I have a ton of silicone toys that aren’t compatible with silicone lube. I’ve liked all of them though, so be sure to check out Empowered if you’re looking for a quality lubricant.

4. Ella – This is the dildo of they year, in my opinion. It’s amazing for g-spot stimulation and totally affordable compared to a lot of pure silicone toys. If you’re looking for an amazing g-spot wand, you should definitely consider this new Lelo release.

So there you have it. Those are the things that kept things hot and heavy in the bedroom this year. Let me know if you think there is something you think will rock my world in 2010!

Happy New Year!

The day after Thanksgiving is a great day to linger in bed and relax as your body recovers from that extra piece of pie you couldn’t say no to. It’s also a great day to make like a turkey and get stuffed and there’s no better dildo for those of you who like girth than Vixen Creations’ Randy.

The Randy is great for those who love a nice, thick dildo that isn’t uncomfortably long. This short and stout silicone lover will rock your world with a semi-realistic design and flared base for anal and strap on enjoyment.

Made with Vixen Creations special Vixskin finish, the dual density shaft is firm in the center and plushy soft on the outside. Silicone is body-friendly and can be washed with soap and water, or boiled to sterilize. Use only water-based lubricants with this toy for best results.

While Randy is just 6 inches long, the 2 1/8 inch wide girth will blow your mind! It’s great for solo play and absolutely perfect for strap-on sex. Plus, since it’s made out of silicone, you know that you’ll be able to enjoy this fat cock for years to come.

Click here for more toys from Vixen Creations.

Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit

While the recession seems to be coming to an end, lots of people are still looking for a good bargain, so I thought I would highlight some of my favorite strap-on kits available. While you can obviously buy a separate harness and dildo, you can save a little money by picking up one of these high quality kits.

The Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit from Tantus is great for those of you who are new to strap-on play and unsure where to start. My favorite thing about it is that you get two medical grade silicone cocks to grow with!

The kit features a velvet harness which is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60 inch hips), and machine washable. It also comes with an O-ring that can be changed for play with larger dildos as well as a pocket built in that fits a bullet vibe (included). The pocket holds the vibrator in place and allows access to the controls throughout your strap-on experience.

The Bend Over Beginner Kit has two smooth 100% silicone dildos, 7/8 x 4-1/2 and 1-1/4 x 5-1/2 so you can pace your exploration with comfort and safety.

Another great kit is the Bikini Harness and Silicone Dildo Set from Sportsheets. It’s really great for women who want to wield a cock like a bad ass femme fatale because the cut is totally cute.

If you’re looking for a comfortable harness and an quality cock, you need to take a look at the Sportsheets’ Bikini Harness and Dildo Set. The adjustable black harness is built for comfort and accomodates up to a 52 inch waist. Also included is a body safe fuchsia silicone dildo that is non-porous and phthalate-free.

The dong is five inches long, with a 1.25 inch diameter and 4 inch circumference. The harness can be used with any dildo that has a diameter of 1.25 inches.

Of course, there are a ton of other great strap-on kits out there, but these are two I think are fantastic because they are well made and both come with phthalate-free silicone cocks that are sure to last a very long time.

If you like the sensation of a dildo, and you want to fantasize, a life-like dildo can add just the right touch to your adult play session.  Dildos come in a variety of interesting shapes, range across many sizes and can be colored from the fanciful to sensational.  Some are designed to stimulate the G Spot, others have nubs for clitoral stimulation, and some come with flared bases for anal use.

Dave Angelos Cock

But the life-like dildo is designed for realism. Some are even molded from real penises!  Here’s a great example – Dave Angelo’s Cock:

“Nearly a foot long, this is one impressive dildo.

Molded from Dave Angelo’s’s own penis and made out of Better-Than-Real Plus, this dildo captures even the tiniest detail of Dave to bring you an incredibly realistic experience. It is 10 inches in length, 2 inches in width and has a circumference of 6.25 inches.

It has a sturdy suction cup base so you can stick Dave wherever you would like, but it also makes this dildo harness compatible as well. It comes with a premium storage bag made out of stretchy black velour.

The veined shaft and perfectly shaped head make this the life like dildo you have been looking for!”

With attention to anatomical detail and even contour, realistic dildos give you a sex toy that is perfect for the ultimate sexual fantasies.  Like any other sex toy, realistic dildos encompass a range of different qualities.  Going through a quick checklist can help you find the perfect realistic dildo to fulfill your fantasy.

First, how large of a dildo do you want?  We always pose this question to users, because choosing a dildo that is too large can be a waste of your money.  You want to find the right sized dildo before you go any further.  The right size is entirely your personal preference and tolerance.  Some come as small as 1 inch wide.  Others can be up to 2 and a half inches wide.  We think you get the idea.  It’s a huge stretch between 1 and 2 and a half inches.

The John Doe Cocoa is a great example of a medium sized, life-like dildo:

“The 6.5 inch Tantus John Doe won’t be an unknown cock for long with all of it’s amazing qualities. This high quality silicone dong has an extra bonus bullet vibe that adds an extra stimulation that’s sure to rock your world!

John Doe Cocoa

100% platinum silicone dong from Tantus is hypoallergenic, boilable, bleachable and dishwasher safe. If you’re looking for a quality cock, you can’t go wrong with John Doe.”

8 Inch Life Like Dildo

Now we get into the fantasy.  What color and texture will most appeal to you?  Dildos range in many flesh colors and can have many skin textures.  Do you like a veined feel?  How about the curve of the dildo?  If you look at the dildo and it doesn’t appeal to you, it can kill the fantasy.  So picking the best is a unique decision for each person.

Want some adult play with a Latin stud?  Maybe you want some fun time with a porn star.  Maybe you have an interracial fantasy.  Whatever your desire, you can find a dildo to fulfill it.  Check out this ethnic fantasy dildo, the 8 Inch Life-Like Dildo – Black:

“8 Inch Life Like Dildo – Black. If you’re looking for a realistic cock that’s perfect for strap-on play, look no further! This black dildo looks and feels like the real thing and is compatible with Doc Johnson’s famous Vac-U-Lock system. This dong is a great recreation of an erect cock with balls, along with its distinct head and veiny shaft!

Please note that this toy does not come with a plug or harness.

It is 8 inches long.”

As you can see, dildos come in a variety of fantasy designs.  If you really want to enjoy a fantasy that gives you everything you want in sex, you can find the dildo that is perfect for bringing it to reality.  You can even find an ejaculating dildo for the complete feel!

Take some time to shop our selection and find the dildo that will turn your fantasy into reality!

Phallix Glass Dildo

I’ve talked about the amazingness of glass toys before, so you know I love them! They’re non-porous, phthalate-free and great for temperature play. Because I’m such a big fan, I can’t tell you how excited I am that we are now offering Phallix wands on sextoys.com!

Phallix toys are definitely top of the line. They are 100% hand blow out of medical grade pyrex glass. As gorgeous as they are effective, the company describes them as functional erotic glass art and as a proud owner, I have to say I agree. Phallix glass dildos are tempered for high durability and will last a lifetime with proper care. One of my favorite things is that they are dishwasher safe, so you can easily sterilize these gorgeous dildos for safe sharing.

I’m sure some of you are a bit wary about a wand made out of a material many of us think of as being extremely fragile, but Phallix addresses this on their website: A properly annealed inch thick piece of borosilicate will withstand up to 3,000 lbs of pressure and extreme heat and cold. That’s right, these toys can take up to a ton and a half of pressure. No matter how many kegels you do daily, you should be fine!

Love Wand

You’ll find a wide variety of toys, including plugs, double ended toys and super textured wands.  If you love lots of bumps, you should check out the Blue Ribbed Love Wand shown here.

7 x 1 long clear, straight, navy blue ribbed shaft with both knobbed and tapered heads. Available in 1 diameter, blue ribs are randomly placed and add approx 3/16 to the shaft.

Our testers love all of the Phallix Glass products. They feel much smoother than plastic or acrylic toys and the nice thing about glass is that it holds the temperature of what ever it’s in. You can put some warm water in a plastic cup and sit it to the side, after a few minutes it will take on the temp. of the water. When you are ready to use it just take it out, lube it up go. Ice water works well too!

Phallix is High Quality, Medical Grade Pyrex Glass. 100% Safe, Hypoallergenic & often recommended by doctors. All Phallix glass dildos are tempered for high durability and will last a lifetime. Colors won’t fade or bleed on our glass dildos

While Phallix toys are a bit pricey, you should remember that you’re buying a lifetime of safe and sexy play!

Curious about strap-on sex but unsure where to start? Strap-on play is really popular, but before you dive right in and buy some toys, there are a few things you should think about. If you’re looking to play golf, it’s important to research your clubs first if you want to be successful – the same research is required if you want to set the bedroom on fire with a scorchin’ hot strap-on session!

O-Ring Harness

The first thing to consider is whether or not a dildo is compatible with the harness you want to use. There are two basic strap-on systems, the Vac-U-Lock system from Doc Johnson and O-Ring Harnesses.  I personally prefer the O-Ring system because it’s not restricted to one toy company so there’s more variety.  Of course, if you already have a Vac-U-Lock system, don’t worry because they make a wide variety of toys and I’m sure you won’t get bored any time in the near future.

With an O-Ring Harnesses, the dildo is held in place by a ring of plastic, silicone or metal ring that also determines the maximum diameter of the toy used.  If you have a harness with a 1.5 inch o-ring and a dildo with a 2 inch diameter dong, you won’t be able to use them together.  Of course, a number of rigs come with interchangeable o-rings, so you can use different size rings with different dildos.  Since I agree that variety is the spice of life, I think this is a very good thing.

The Mistress By Vixen Creations

Whether you’re thinking about getting your first harness or a seasoned cock slinger, you need a really great dildo to make the most of your strap-on sessions. While a harnesses construction, comfort and effectiveness is really important, you’re not going to maximize the pleasure if you aren’t using the right dick.

Besides size, another really important thing to think about when picking up a new cock for strap-on sex is the design.  If a dildo does not have a flared base like the Mistress pictured here, it will not work with your o-ring harness because there’s nothing to hold it in place!

Of course, you should also consider the material your dong is crafted from.  I’m guessing you’re going to be strapping, so spending a few bucks on a silicone toy that can be sterilized is a great idea.  Silicone is also phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and made to last a lifetime if properly cared for.

If you’re interested in the Vac-U-Lock system, let me tell you a little bit about that.  Doc Johnson’s patented system is known for being really secure.  You don’t have to worry about your dildo slipping out of the harness and it offers a lot of control.  The dildo and harness are connected via their unique plug.

Vac-U-Lock Kit

While the system is very secure, I will remind you once again that it is only compatible with Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock products. They offer everything from vibrating dongs, to double dildos and monster cocks, so there’s plenty of variety, but it is definitely worth thinking about if you already have a few harness compatible dildos you could incorporate into your strap-on sessions.

Finally, regardless of what kind of harness you decide on, take the time to really think about what kind of dildo you want to use and why. If you’re looking to experiment with pegging for the first time, you’re boy will probably be far more receptive if you start off with a smaller toy. If you love g-spot stimulation, make sure your toy is designed to hit that magic button. Of course, take a little time to think about your sexual well-being and choose toys that are made from quality materials.

Strap-on sex is a ton of fun and a great way to change things up in the bedroom. With a little research and an open mind, you’re in for a great time!

Silicone Dildo by Tantus

Now you’re ready to select the perfect sex toy to add the spice to your next play time.  There are so many to choose from that it is difficult to decide where to begin looking.  Do you want a G Spot dildo, a Rabbit vibrator, or some other kind of vibrator that will give you extra buzz?  Making the decision on what to buy can be incredibly difficult.

But you can make the selection process simpler by learning about which sex toys are healthiest for your body.  Selecting a body healthy sex toy can give you fun with peace of mind.  But even more importantly, sex toys that are built with body health in mind are almost always made from higher quality materials, which means that the toy itself will be more durable and a better value for your money.

The number of debates about sex toy materials have grown in recent years.  Let’s take a moment to sort out the facts.  Some people claim that all jelly sex toys are toxic.  Incendiary as the next statement may be, it must be written.  There is no scientific support for the assertion that ALL jelly sex toys are toxic.

And the Phthalate debate is still unsettled.  True, the United States banned the use of Phthalates in toys for children, but the body of evidence concerning Phthalates does not allow the conclusion that Phthalates always directly cause the maladies (including cancer) that some people have asserted they cause.

Just the same, there is a growing collection of evidence that points to problems with some sex toys.  The Dutch EPA commissioned a study (Which Tantus Inc. provides in its entirety here) that leads to some alarming conclusions.  I include a sampling below:

“The chemical substances include solvents, degradation products from accelerators and other rubber chemicals and plasticizers. Several of those are reprotoxic and a few have other injurious health effects, e.g. neurotoxic effects.”

That’s a fairly sobering paragraph that should make us all stop and think before we make our next purchase.  While not all toys contain these chemicals, if we don’t know how to shop, we could accidentally get a nasty surprise.

It should be noted that this report takes a tiny sampling of toys from a very large pool of possible sex toys.  But the point is, we should be careful when choosing what we will put on, or in, our bodies.  What if you could choose a toy that had the following qualities? (Source)

- Manufactured under strict Good Manufacturing Procedures in a controlled environment
- Platinum cured for the highest degree of purity (least extractables)
- Reusable — will withstand repeated sterilization
- Nonreactive to body tissues and fluids

Those properties sound like a far better alternative to use.  And when you get a Platinum Grade Silicone dildo, you get those exact properties!  Now you get a great dildo and a great, healthy alternative to a lesser quality material.

Glass dildos are also a good alternative, as are aluminum and hard plastic sex toys.  The point is this, you can still find a wide variety of fun sex toys without giving up the healthy options that eliminate many of the concerns associated with lower quality materials.

Shop carefully and you’ll discover that fun and quality can be intertwined.  Throw healthy into the mix and you have a sex toy that comes guilt free.  Think it through; you’ll see that you can get what you want and feel good about the purchase.  And that alone can make your next play session even more fun!

So that condom is no big deal, right?  Safe sex is just a matter of being selective?  If you agree with either of those ideas, you really should read on.  And if you’re a fan of safe sex, we have some facts you might want to know as well.

When an airline pilot is preparing for takeoff, he goes through a rigorous checklist of his aircraft’s mechanics and functions.  Your odds of being in a fatal crash on the top 25 safe Airlines in the world is 1 in 13.57 million (Source).  Would you be surprised to discover that unprotected sex gives a woman 1 in 2 odds of catching Gonorrhea and 4 in 10 odds of catching Chlamydia (Source)?  That’s in just one unprotected encounter!

In 2007, slightly over 1 in 1,000 people contracted Gonorrhea, and that’s just the reported cases (Source).  So 1 in 13.57 MILLION people are involved in a plane crash with fatalities on highly safe airlines, 1 in 1,000 people contract Gonorrhea.  I think maybe it’s time we contemplate a safe sex checklist.  Those pilots may be on to something.

The right lubricant is critical to safety

So here is a checklist we suggest you try out to improve your sexual health by engaging in safe sex and play.

First, if you are with a partner, do you have your condoms?  Think about it, if one unprotected encounter exposes you to a 50/50 chance of catching a nasty infection, each subsequent encounter almost guarantees that you’ll catch something that you’d really rather not have to treat.  And if you’re among the hearty sorts who doesn’t fear disease, perhaps you should have a look at the new resistant strains.

Unless you are in a long term, completely monogamous relationship with a partner who is disease free, you shouldn’t ever be without a condom when you’re ready for fun.  For everyone else, make sure the condom is number one on your safe sex checklist.

Second, if you plan to use lubrication (and if you’re planning on anal play, plan to use lubricant), make sure your lubricant is compatible with the condom or toy you’re using.  I was curious about how fast a latex condom would deteriorate with a silicone lubricant, so I ran a test using a condom on a rubber dildo.  I stretched a condom over, and applied silicone lubricant by hand.  The condom began to disintegrate on contact.

When I say disintegrate, I mean that in the literal sense of the word.  The condom was melting into goo in front of my eyes.  The dildo wasn’t doing well either.  Always use water based lubricants with latex condoms.  As you can see, checklist point two is critical to the safety of checklist point one.

The rest of our checklist relates specifically to toys.

Third, when using a sex toy like a dildo, make sure that you get into the habit of washing it before and after use.  A clean sex toy prevents the spread of infections.  Also, some materials can pick up small debris, which can lead to uncomfortable, unsanitary play.  A simple wash eliminates this problem.

Fourth, inspect your toy for any damage.  A chip on a glass toy can lead to painful issues.  A damaged retrieval mechanism on an anal toy can be dangerous as well.  If your toy has wiring (like a vibrator with a wired remote), make sure the wiring is not damaged.  Never play with a damaged sex toy.  The risk isn’t worth the sensation.

Fifth, make sure you intend to use your toy in the way it is intended to be used.  This is a simple rule that can save you from potentially dangerous play.  If you aren’t sure about your toy’s uses, contact us with our Ask an Expert button in the top right corner of this blog.

Finally, safe sex requires that you know your body.  Know your allergies and select toys that won’t affect them.  Silicone dildos and vibrators are great hypoallergenic choices for play.  Make sure the lubricant you select is body safe for you.  Know what size of dildo you can safely use.  Body safe toys are critical to safety, and for that matter, fun!

This is just a rudimentary checklist.  You may have even more items you want to add to yours.  But if you have a safety checklist, and you follow it well in advance of your next play time, when it’s time to have fun, you can focus on the whole point of adult play – HAVING FUN!  So take the time to make sure you’re prepared, then go out and have fun!

And follow your checklist.