Fingertip thrills that are easy to control

That’s an easy one to answer.  The control type on a vibrator can often be the difference between a thrilling finish, or outrageous frustration over and over again.  If you have a vibrator that isn’t built to match your adult playtime style, you could end up accidentally turning it off, switching the functions, lowering the speed and many other unwanted changes right as you are arriving at that special moment.

Nobody wants that to happen, especially if that moment has been building for a while.  Let’s face it, a good orgasm is sometimes hard to bring about, and a simple change in sensations can ruin one fast.  So picking a vibrator with the right control type can be the difference between thrills or chills.

First, you have to decide which control type matches your style.  Are you an “all over the place” type of player?  Then you don’t want controls that are sensitive and can be easily changed with a bump here or there.  Are you a “pressure” player?  You might want to avoid the simple on/off control that can be pressed in a push, which could definitely spoil the moment.

Slide controls, easy on/off, elevated controls and some dial controls are best suited to “slow and steady” players who can control their movements (to a point). For the more intense players, locking controls or a firmer control pad are a much better fit.

Some companies, like Lelo and Fun Factory have developed ergonomic controls that are perfect for push and play happiness!

But just remember, if you’ve found something else that is so sexy you just can’t resist getting it, check the controls to make sure it’s a good fit for you.  Sometimes it’s a simple press that is the difference between a turn on and a turn off.  We mean that literally AND figuratively.  And you came here for a turn on, right?  Good luck, and we hope you find the vibrator that rocks your world.

This is the part where, being anal retentive about things, we remind you to go see a doctor and make sure your prostate is in good health before you try this.  An inflamed prostate receiving any pressure at all will definitely make your day a painful one.  Also, you don’t want to cause further injury if your prostate is not healthy.  Get a clean bill of health before you give it a go, especially if you are over 40 years old.

So we’ll start with a little information about the prostate.  From WebMD:

“The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. The prostate is just in front of the rectum. The urethra runs through the center of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis, letting urine flow out of the body.

The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen.

The vasa deferentia (singular: vas deferens) bring sperm from the testes to the seminal vesicles. The seminal vesicles contribute fluid to semen during ejaculation.”

Aneros Helix

That’s the long way of saying that when you ejaculate, the prostate is intimately involved.  And, as a side note, frequent ejaculation might actually be good for your prostate.  That’s where a prostate massage can be an added treat.

Now, in some fetish play, prostate massage is used for creating ejaculation alone – or a “ruined orgasm.”  If you are into orgasm denial, that’s your ticket.  But, if like me, you kind of consider an orgasm a fun part of sex, then you might want to go for the prostate massage – masturbation combo.  Or you could even go for the mother of all orgasmic explosions with the prostate massage – perineum massage – oral sex package that will leave you as a collection of jumbled, happy nerve endings.

Here are your tips to get going.  First, start small.  Have your partner use her or his finger to gently massage the prostate.  Simple strokes along it are best for a smooth experience.  I strongly recommend a healthy dose of water based lubricant and a rubber glove for the first time.  And make sure all fingernails are neatly trimmed.  Let your partner massage your prostate while you masturbate.  This will get you comfortable with the stimulation.

Next, experiment with internal massage versus a massage of the perineum alone.  The perineum is a stretch of skin between the testicles and anus.  The perineum is directly below the prostate.  You can do a perineum massage first, if you like, but I always suggest internal first to get a feel for anal stimulation.  You may find that the perineum massage is a better way for you, but remember that the urethra runs along the perineum and some people find it uncomfortable to get that kind of massage.

After that, you might want to try out a prostate massager.  Many vibrate, some offer multiple massage points, but almost all of them function better than anything else for a great prostate massage.  Again, start small.  The last thing you want to do is start anal play with the largest sex toy you can find.

Next, always remember to pay close attention to your comfort level.  If something starts to feel uncomfortable, stop the massage.  This is important.  You can cause injury to yourself if you don’t pay close attention.

And finally, some of you have been waiting to hear how to get the best of all combos.  That’s something you and your partner will need to discover together.  Good luck and enjoy the journey!

O-Ring Harness

The first thing to consider is whether or not a dildo is compatible with the harness you want to use. There are two basic strap-on systems, the Vac-U-Lock system from Doc Johnson and O-Ring Harnesses.  I personally prefer the O-Ring system because it’s not restricted to one toy company so there’s more variety.  Of course, if you already have a Vac-U-Lock system, don’t worry because they make a wide variety of toys and I’m sure you won’t get bored any time in the near future.

With an O-Ring Harnesses, the dildo is held in place by a ring of plastic, silicone or metal ring that also determines the maximum diameter of the toy used.  If you have a harness with a 1.5 inch o-ring and a dildo with a 2 inch diameter dong, you won’t be able to use them together.  Of course, a number of rigs come with interchangeable o-rings, so you can use different size rings with different dildos.  Since I agree that variety is the spice of life, I think this is a very good thing.

The Mistress By Vixen Creations

Whether you’re thinking about getting your first harness or a seasoned cock slinger, you need a really great dildo to make the most of your strap-on sessions. While a harnesses construction, comfort and effectiveness is really important, you’re not going to maximize the pleasure if you aren’t using the right dick.

Besides size, another really important thing to think about when picking up a new cock for strap-on sex is the design.  If a dildo does not have a flared base like the Mistress pictured here, it will not work with your o-ring harness because there’s nothing to hold it in place!

Of course, you should also consider the material your dong is crafted from.  I’m guessing you’re going to be strapping, so spending a few bucks on a silicone toy that can be sterilized is a great idea.  Silicone is also phthalate-free, hypoallergenic and made to last a lifetime if properly cared for.

If you’re interested in the Vac-U-Lock system, let me tell you a little bit about that.  Doc Johnson’s patented system is known for being really secure.  You don’t have to worry about your dildo slipping out of the harness and it offers a lot of control.  The dildo and harness are connected via their unique plug.

Vac-U-Lock Kit

While the system is very secure, I will remind you once again that it is only compatible with Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock products. They offer everything from vibrating dongs, to double dildos and monster cocks, so there’s plenty of variety, but it is definitely worth thinking about if you already have a few harness compatible dildos you could incorporate into your strap-on sessions.

Finally, regardless of what kind of harness you decide on, take the time to really think about what kind of dildo you want to use and why. If you’re looking to experiment with pegging for the first time, you’re boy will probably be far more receptive if you start off with a smaller toy. If you love g-spot stimulation, make sure your toy is designed to hit that magic button. Of course, take a little time to think about your sexual well-being and choose toys that are made from quality materials.

Strap-on sex is a ton of fun and a great way to change things up in the bedroom. With a little research and an open mind, you’re in for a great time!

Mini Max Vibrating Makeup Brush

From vibrators that look like lipstick and hairbrushes, to vibrators that are very small, the discreet vibrators utilize various methods to blend in.  Unlike predictable shapes and designs in other vibes, these vibes give a user the option to select a design as unique as the individual who uses them, with vibrators designed for a variety of uses.  Because of that versatility, the materials used to make them can vary greatly as well.

Power sources are usually small batteries, or micro batteries.  This doesn’t necessarily mean that the vibrations are weaker than other vibes, but you should consider the design of the vibrator compared to their desires.  Buying a hairbrush vibrator, for instance, may not produce the same effect as a powerful micro bullet, but the trade off is the discretion the user receives from having a vibrator that looks like a hairbrush.

Whichever kind a user wants, discreet vibrators can blend in and make life that much more fun!

See a complete line of discreet vibrators.