We begin our Cupid’s Fun Factory giveaways this week with Fun Factory’s Wanda.

Wanda

Fun Factory’s Wanda dildo is a unique toy that’s sure to please thanks to the curved boys and delicious details. Silicone is a body safe material that is phthalate-free and can be sterilized in between sessions.

Wanda is relatively small, making it the perfect fit for beginners and anal play. A free sample of Fun Factory’s Toyfluid is included with this 6.5 inch dildo.

We will be giving away a toy each week all the way through Valentine’s Day.  Find the official rules here and enter to win!

Flexi Felix Anal Toy

A common question that relates to adult play asks whether or not anal stimulation can lead to orgasm.  We’ve covered all kinds of orgasms in this blog, from what seem to be random orgasms, to Extended Massive Orgasm.  And as regular readers know, different people will experience stimulation in many different ways.  Orgasms can occur because of a variety of stimulations.

But can you achieve an anal orgasm because of anal stimulation.  Our answer?  Sure, why couldn’t you have an orgasm because of anal stimulation?

As we covered in our discussion of analingus, not all anal stimulation is safe, so you have to be careful when you engage in anal play or anal sex.  But most anal stimulation is perfectly safe, provided you take the proper precautions for you and your partner.  Let’s go over a few points to keep things fun.

Anal Sex – Basic Steps for Fun and Safety

First, everyone has to relax.  Your first anal experience should be an easy, comfortable time.  Going straight from never having had anal sex to full blown penetration could turn into a painful lesson in patience.  Taking a few steps one by one is a good plan for your first time.  Relaxing could be as simple as a good massage, lots of foreplay and even a tasty adult beverage before you get started.  Once everyone is “in the groove,” you can proceed to experimenting.

Next, have a good supply of lubricant on hand.  The anus provides no natural lubrication, so you need to use as much lube as it takes to make things comfortable (that amount will vary from one person to the next).  If you are using latex gloves or condoms, make sure that you ONLY use a water-based lubricant.  If you use oil or silicone based lube on latex, you’ll be in for a melting, gooey surprise.

Why would latex gloves be involved?  Easy, you might want to get your partner used to anal stimulation gently.  Using a single finger for gentle penetration allows your partner to get used to the sensation.  Another option is to get an anal beginner’s kit that has graduated anal plugs so that you can take your time and go easy.

Juli Ashton Anal Beginner Kit

One other important idea: Masturbating your partner, or having your partner masturbate as you experiment with these sensations allows your partner to create an association between anal sex and orgasm.  This can lead to even more intense orgasms as the anal stimulation becomes more familiar.

Those are the standard rules for getting started.  Now we’ll break things up a little for women and men.  The approaches can be different for either sex, so we’ll separate them to make it simple.

Anal Sex Ideas for Women

Four Seasons Condoms

Once you’ve taken the time to become accustomed to anal stimulation, you’ll probably want to branch into anal sex. Most people automatically assume that this means hit the hands and knees and go straight to doggie style anal sex.  Often, that’s the worst way to get started.  Women might want to start anal sex in a classic “Cowgirl” position, where the woman is on top and in control of the penetration.

Missionary is also another great option for anal sex.  It limits the depth of penetration, and it’s definitely more intimate than doggie style as you and your partner try a whole new experience.  Again, during anal sex it is perfectly fine to masturbate, and some people swear by Bullets to achieve intense, body shaking orgasms.

You may find that you don’t need a bullet or masturbation.  It is quite possible to have an orgasm with only anal stimulation alone.  There are no rules, other than to be safe and have fun.

And if things get uncomfortable, just stop and come back to it another time!

Anal Sex Ideas for Men

Your new best friend Bob

You’re too macho for back door play, eh?  All that tells us is that you haven’t had a prostate massage induced orgasm.  Have one of those and get back to us on the macho stuff (we suspect you’ll be asking our experts which prostate massager is right for you).  Anal stimulation is great for women, but some men just can’t get enough either.

Some gay and bisexual men enjoy anal play together, but you don’t have to be gay or bisexual to enjoy anal stimulation.  The growing number of men buying strap ons tells us that straight men have caught on to the joys of anal sex too.  Now, here’s where we find a common bickering point.  Is there a difference between an anal orgasm and a prostate orgasm?  Do you really care?  We don’t.

If something is safe and makes you come, it doesn’t really matter what caused it scientifically.  Guys, you differ from women slightly.  The prostate is just inside your anus, right above your perineum (the area between your scrotum and anus).  It pays to be careful around the prostate.  If you’re going to have your partner use fingers for warm up, watch out for fingernails!  And remember that the prostate is sensitive.

Prostate massagers can give you a knee buckling, drooling and mind numbing orgasm like you’ve never experienced.  If your partner learns how to manipulate one to please you, be careful.  She’ll have the power to make you her love slave.  The rules on prostate massage are pretty simple.  If you have prostate issues, don’t do it.  Otherwise, you’ll want gentle, steady strokes on your prostate until you come.  It takes varying times, but if you’re patient, you’ll get the big prize.

Take a break from being the big doggie and give her some fun too

Same as with anal sex, you can masturbate during anal stimulation to get the best of both worlds.  In fact, you can folow the same rules as a woman.  Heck, give her a strap on, lube up, grab a masturbator and get completely freaky.  You can use your imagination to have a ball.  Plus, she might like a break from the mundane and an opportunity to play the role of Big Doggie!

Enjoy it, and if it gets uncomfortable, stop and come back to it later.

So we know anal orgasm is possible.  We know anal sex can be perfectly safe.  We know that many people enjoy it all the time.  All that’s left is for you to get busy enjoying it!

Ecstasy

See the first review HERE!

It’s me, the over-valued and under-worked intern with another toy review for you to consider. Or, if you’d prefer a different and slightly more accurate introduction, this is the story of the first thing I’ve ever had shoved up my ass. Either way, what you’re about to read will probably not shock you or stir deep-rooted connections to the human consciousness or anything like that. If, however, it compels you to buy this product (or any one of the other thousands of excellent products we offer, for that matter), then I guess my anal virginity was not lost in vain.

So when Bill sat down at his desk with an inconspicuous brown parcel and a  look on his face, I knew I was in for… something. Calling over a few people, he lined up a row of dildos, dongs, and butt plugs from Adam & Eve and told us each to choose one. “Great,” I thought to myself, “I’m not getting out of this one.” In truth, I probably could have cited any number of reasons to avoid having to take home the 11″ ‘Eve’s Ecstasy’ double-dong that I eventually chose. There’s something about the thought of bringing home a kinky toy to the girlfriend that kicked the angel on my shoulder screaming “NO!” directly in the throat. And so I tossed my new friend into my bag and headed home.

Before I go any further, let’s clear the air a bit. I am, and forever into the foreseeable future will be, a happy and loving heterosexual man (See: Men, Anal Sex Toys and an Odd Question for more details). I also, as I mentioned previously, have a girlfriend who is wonderful in all respects, if only slightly timid in bed.

Looking at the (from my perspective) gigantic pink and purple double-dong (7″x 1″ long side, 4″x1 ½ ” “choad” side, in case you’re wondering) in my hand, waiting for my girlfriend to get home from work, I realized something. This was either going to be the best night of my life or the worst. There would be no shades of grey – I was either going to be pink or purple.  I examined the heads of both shafts – it turns out the entire dong is pretty non-descript. The thin, pink side has a small penis head and the purple side has a larger penis head. A few veins etched into the purple side round out the bells and whistles – this dong is a case of form and function being one.

When my girlfriend (who we’ll call Angela for the sake of humanization) came home we used some toy cleaner on the dong and went straight to the bedroom. A little foreplay eased the mood. Angela’s no stranger to dongs and dildos, but doesn’t particularly like them – something about not being the “real thing.” I was just plain scared. She chose the pink side – the long, thin end – for me, and she took the purple choad for herself. With the  application of a healthy amount of water-based lubricant and a deep breath we each inserted our respective ends into their appropriate orifices in an awkward piledriver-cowgirl position.

Tingle. Tingle. That’s pretty much all I could feel throughout my entire body for the first few seconds. Angela was laughing at my sour face as I tried to comprehend what, exactly, this new sensation was. I imagined that it was 1869 and the laborers of the Transcontinental Railroad had just finished boring their newest rail tunnel in my ass. I frantically wiped the exposed portion of my end with my finger and examined my hand for blood. A sticky, lubricated, yet bloodless hand assuaged my fear that I would forever be a method of crossing the Appalachian Mountains underground.

Maybe next time

It started to feel good. Gripping the flared dividing point of the toy, I handled the pumping (an easy enough thing to do, for those who’ve not experienced it) back and forth of our new friend between us while Angela jerked me off. I’d love to tell you where all that cum came from. Unfortunately, my eyes were nailed shut in the ecstasy of sexual release so I cannot personally verify that there was not another cock in the room at that time covering just about everything in the room with strings of sticky goo. My hand, too, fell asleep on the job. I’m guessing that Angela picked up the slack because my ass was still being pounded and I soon felt the warm rush of her orgasm on my inner thigh.

When we had finished cleaning the toy a little while later, I asked Angela what she thought about it. She told me that it had made her cum, but it wasn’t thick enough and that she’d prefer the “real thing” any day of the week. I asked if by “real thing” she meant a cock, and the look in her eyes told me that she thought I was an idiot. She then told me I could lie in my review and say she thought it was better than anything else in the world if it would make me look good and help move the product – but I’m not that kind of guy. Her eyes did light up when I told her it was probably the most intense orgasm I ever had, and a smile creepily stretched across her thin lips (which means that our new friend will be a mainstay of our sex life from here on).  Later that night I spent some alone time with the toy. I tried the purple end, and the 1 ½ ” thickness didn’t really feel all that big inside me either. I shot another huge load and pumped it in and out a few times before going to sleep a very happy man.

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So… that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. Angela and I love our Eve’s Ecstasy and I think you will too if you choose to buy it, dear reader. However, I’m probably not the most-qualified person to recommend a toy that’s traditionally designed for female/female intercourse – or at least meant for anal aficionados of the male variety. I mean, think about it – would you trust a first year economics student to recommend you a stock for your portfolio?  I’ve got no idea how this product compares with other similar products. The cynical/naive part of me is thinking that when it comes to dongs without bells and whistles (twists, ribs, bumps – of those features the Adam and Eve double dong is quite bereft) there really can’t be too much of a difference. All I can tell you about this particular product is that it’s crafted well and serves the purpose for which it’s intended. Anything else I could tell you would be my personal opinion.

If you want that, then I’ll tell you I love this product for the new intimacy it’s brought to my relationship with Angela and its sentimental value for being my first. And maybe (this is for those in heterosexual relationships) if you or your man are anything like me you’ll want to try it after reading my story. Thank you for your time and long live anal play.

While anal play is considered taboo in some circles, there’s a lot of pleasure to be found in exploring your back door! Today’s list are our top five toys for those of you who are curious about butt sex, but unsure where to start. I also recommend you check out Bill’s blog Five Secrets to Great Anal Play. It’s packed full of great tips!

1. Little Flirt Butt Plug – This little guy from Tantus is perfect for beginners – it’s made of safe silicone, has a flared base and isn’t intimidating. I can’t think of a better first toy for anyone who’s looking to explore!

2. Flexi Felix Silicone Anal Beads – Anal beads are another style of toy that a lot of people first experiment with. Besides being totally cute, Felix can be sterilized in a pot of boiling water, which is really important and one of the reason I love silicone toys in general.

3. Aneros Eupho – While this toy is marketed as a male prostate massager, women will find that toys with this design are pretty fun! The Eupho is smaller than many of the Aneros toys, which makes it a good starter probe.

4. Trinity Love Pacifier – I love the ring grip on the end of this one – it allows for great control and will save you an embarrassing trip to the ER. Did I mention that all anal toys MUST have a flared base? Anyways, this one is silicone also and perfect for massaging the very sensitive region inside the anus. Good stuff!

5. Royal Mini Mole – Brought to you by the star of Sex Talk, Sue Johanson, this one is for all of you who think vibration will add to your anal exploration. Another silicone toy that has an insertable, multi-speed bullet – because options are always a good thing.

Ready for the perfect butt plug, guys?  How about trying high quality, body healthy and completely fun the Tantus Severin?  This is a butt plug that has the texture you want and the safety you appreciate in the price range you want.  This toy will completely satisfy you in a way that you haven’t experienced if you haven’t tried a Tantus Butt Plug.

Tantus Severin

From Tantus:

“This red anal plug will bring you pleasure. The Severin plug is designed for comfort with a narrow tip and graduating base to ease onto.

The Severin is odor free and made of 100% medical grade quality silicone. Flexible and designed to fit most strap on harnesses. Hypoallergenic, warms to the body and is boilable, bleachable in a 10% solution and dishwasher safe.”

What do you think Ginger Leigh would add to this play time scenario to make it more fun?

There’s an old saying:  you can never be too rich, too thin, or have too many butt plugs…

At least I think that’s how it goes.  Anyways, today’s featured product is the Infinity Butt Plug from our friends at Tantus and it’s super awesome.  It’s made of medical grade silicone and designed to blow your mind!

The Infinity plug isn’t just made to stay put, it’s made to create wave after wave of orgasmic enjoyment as it hits your sphincter nerve pack perfectly. Made of 100% platinum grade silicone by Tantus. No smell, no gasses- this toy is meant to be played with. Choose Infinity and keep it close to the top of your toybox- this one’s a keeper.

Check out our full line of Tantus products!

Looking for a new butt plug?  Who isn’t!  Today’s featured product, the Severin Butt Plug, is from one of our favorite companies, Tantus, so you know it’s made out of super awesome and body-friendly silicone.  That’s right, this one is phthalates-free and can be sterilized!

The Severin has a narrow tip and two different staging areas to ease onto. It features a long neck and a butterfly base to wear comfortably between the cheeks. Serious players are now given material that is safe to use and easy to clean.

There is nothing better for butt play than silicone and no one who understands the dynamics of anal exploration and your needs quite as well as Tantus Silicone.

It’s 4.5 inches long and has a diameter of 1.5 inches – just so you know what you’re getting into before purchasing.

Check out the rest of our Butt Plugs to find just the right fit for you!

Meet Tex

Alright cowpokes, you think you know a little bit about anal play?  Well, Tex will separate the ranch hands from the tourists in a glance, much less a play session.  Meet Tex, from Tantus:

“Huuuuuuge! Fearsome looking – but amazing feeling! The Tantus Cowboy butt plug creates the most brilliant, full-up sensation you can imagine. Simply lube it up then pop it in! Perfect for vaginal play too!

This 100% silicone plug is made for safety – it is perfectly smooth and has no seams or ridges to it. The head is rounded and bulbous with a gentle nub on the end for extra sensations. The plug’s waist is slightly tapered, allowing the plug to sit perfectly inside you. Flared base to avoid any slippage or accidents.

Length: 5.5 inches
Insertable: 4.25 inches
Circumference: 9.5 inches
Diameter: 3.0 inches
Base diameter: 3 inches”

So grab some good lube and get ready for a bronco that has a serious buck!

If you know me, you know that I love glass toys! They’re gorgeous, great for temperature play and built to last. Because glass is really smooth, it’s a great material for those of you who are new to anal play. Just add a little lube and things should run pretty smoothly!

The Artisan Glass Bulb, one of our current featured products, is a butt plug for those who only stick the finest toys up their ass! Glass is a great material for anal play, because it’s phthalate-free, non-porous and can be sterilized.

And while we all know that looks aren’t everything, the cute little butterfly on the base of this hand blown glass plug is pretty hot.

For a high quality toy at a bargain price, you can’t beat the Artisan Glass Bulb, especially if you include it on your list for Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree!

I love Dan Savage and when I saw this video of him talking to a group of students about why straight dudes should really know about butt plugs, I knew I had to share it. If you don’t know much about them, you’ll learn and laugh with one of my favorite sex writers.