Delayed Ejaculation, Simple Tips To Overcome It
In a previous post, we outlined the problem of Delayed Ejaculation. Lately, a number of people have asked questions related to this problem. I’ll take a moment to outline it again. Delayed Ejaculation is the opposite of premature ejaculation. Where a man who suffers from premature ejaculation will last seconds or minutes, delayed ejaculation can make a man almost, if not completely, incapable of having an orgasm during sex.
We’ll start with our primary warning on every sexual health issue. If you have a problem with sexual dysfunction, always first seek the help of a licensed clinical professional to rule out medical, psychological or emotional issue that might be affecting your sexual health. Sometimes, a doctor can identify an easily treatable problem, or a more serious condition that needs attention. Relying solely on advice from the internet (even ours, though we take pride in providing good, well researched information) can be dangerous for your health and well being. See a doctor first if you have any physical problems.
Use Lubricant
Once you’ve ruled out medical problems, you can move on to some simple tips that my help you solve this problem.
First, consider your masturbation habits. Are you a tight-fisted jack rabbit style masturbator? This can easily lead to delayed ejaculation. By keeping a tight grip during masturbation, you actually create a situation where your penis is over-stimulated. When you have sex with a partner, her or his body can’t replicate that sensation, whether with the mouth, the vagina or anus.
Solution: Try to moderate, or even stop masturbation for an extended period of time. When you begin to masturbate again, use lubricant and a light touch while you masturbate. This will allow your penis to become sensitive to the touch again, and take away the over-stimulation problem that makes it difficult to reach orgasm.
The first few times, don’t even focus on the orgasm. Take a sexually appealing thought and focus on it. Set aside a block of time and casually masturbate. If you don’t achieve orgasm, don’t worry. As you continue to practice, the sexual energy will build and you’ll get the desired result.
Speaking of sexually appealing thoughts, what do you think about when you’re engaging in sexual intercourse? Is your mind on the big game, or tomorrow’s work schedule, or the need to rake the leaves? If you think too much, you can absolutely ruin the moment when you’re having sex.
Solution: First, focus on your partner. You want to have sex with her or him for a reason, right? What is it that is lighting your candle? Focus on that and that alone. The leaves can get raked later. Next, try extensive foreplay. Touching, kissing, spanking – as an example of whatever turns you both on – for an extended period builds sexual energy. On that note, you could even offer your partner an erotic massage. Run your hands over all of that luscious real estate and enjoy the view and feel. You’ll find your sexual tension builds more and even to the point where you can’t not be totally in the moment. And a pleasant side effect is that if you are focusing on your partner’s pleasure, you’re absolutely certain to have a pleasurable experience, orgasm or no, and you’ll be really popular around the house for a few days.
And here’s one final thing to consider: Are you nervous, worried, or freaking out about your performance during sex?
Solution: Let it go, man. Your partner, unless you’ve done something illegal, has chosen to enjoy sex with you. That means your partner is as into you as vice versa. Just focus on having a good time. If you do that, your stud points will accumulate and you’ll be just fine. Talk to your partner and spill the beans. “Honey/dude, I’m really freaking out about my performance and I’m worried you aren’t into it. Do you enjoy our sex? Anything I can do to improve it? I want to have a good time and not be worried that you aren’t.” Lead with that in a casual conversation and see what happens. Odds are, you’re going to get a hug, smile, honest discussion and hopefully much, much more for your sincerity and concern.
Give these ideas a whirl and see what happens. You may discover that your orgasm problems will gradually become a worry of the past, and your partner will really enjoy your physical company.
Related posts:
