This is not a Bonobo

As some of you may have figured out by now, we never get tired of talking about orgasms.  And following up on a post about Immaculate Orgasms, I found more information about how to get things going, so to speak.  Some of you may remember that I was stunned by the fact that visualizing a walk on the beach could lead to an orgasmic experience.

Well, thank goodness scientific resources are being dedicated to help us understand these things.  Women’s Health recently published a story about what turns women on.  You can read the full article here.  This is the excerpt I found most interesting:

“One of the most intriguing research nuggets to emerge: While male sexuality is fairly predictable—they tend to be aroused by naked women and naked women hooking up with other naked women—female sexuality is stimulated by a surprisingly wide array of turn-ons. Meredith Chivers, Ph. D., an assistant professor of psychology at Queens University in Kingston, Ontario, calls this “the nonspecificity of women’s sexual arousal.” Chivers created a buzz with a study in which she showed both men and women a variety of sexually explicit images—nude male and female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex, and sex between bonobos (a particularly frisky species of ape)—while measuring physiological signs of genital arousal as well as their subjective feelings of desire.

For the guys, the findings were straightforward enough: The straight men in the study were physically aroused by women, gay men were aroused by men, and neither group felt any stirrings for the apes. The men’s physical reactions (erections) were in agreement with what they reported being turned on by.”

We’re getting closer to the point here.  Of course guys are fairly predictable, and my guess is a couple of them had to ponder calculus equations during the Bonobo scenes to keep from giving the wrong impressions.  It doesn’t take much to stir a guy’s feelings, or terminate them in a heartbeat.  But what about women?  The article continues.

“The women in Chivers’s study were aroused by all the images—but that doesn’t mean they desired to have sex with the people (or animals) they saw. “Women have the capacity to get turned on by a broad range of things,” she says. “This is normal and not necessarily a challenge to sexual identity.”

While it may not challenge sexual identities, it can definitely confuse a partner.  Some of you may wonder where I’m heading with all of this.  I’m heading back to square one, where we always head when things get confusing.

Sexuality and arousal are among the most individual aspects of a person.  I mean, the idea of visualizing a beach for orgasm stunned me.  But on the other hand, what arouses me might raise a few eyebrows.  Sure, you can ask, but I won’t tell here.

And since sex is usually two people getting together for a good time, that means that two individuals have to synchronize their desires if everyone is going to have fun.  That means communication and patience are a big part of making sure a good sexual relationship can happen.  With such diverse points of arousal, men and women need to communicate openly and honestly to get the most from sex.

Or, you can just go solo, visualizing a Bonobo on the beach.  Personally, I’d rather talk things through.

Looking for a new water-based lube, ladies?

Empowered Products’ Pink Water is a lubricant made for women.  Pink Water is great if you’re looking for something to use with your favorite silicone dildos.  I love it because it’s glycerin-free, and since I’m not a fan of yeast infections, I avoid glycerin in my lube at all costs.

Pink Water is a water-based lubricant designed with the specific needs of women in mind. Pink Water is glycerin free and contains no pigment, so it does not stain fabrics. Fortified with Aloe Vera, it is gentle in on your skin and all sensitive areas.

Pink Water is formulated to the same high quality specification as all of the Pink line of lubricants so it is condom-safe and highly concentrated, yet easy to wash off.

Water-based lubes are an essential in my book – make sure to check out our extensive offerings!

If you have latex allergies, you can still practice safe sex.  Trojan Naturalamb condoms are latex free and just as safe as all other Trojan Condoms.  You get allergy free peace of mind when you use these.

From Trojan:

“The NATURALAMB brand condom is different from a latex condom. Because it is made from a natural membrane, you will find it has its own special feeling of sensitivity!Each NATURALAMB brand condom is tested to help ensure reliability and individually packaged for ease of use.

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And be sure to check out our complete selection of condoms for safe sex.

Brass Pump

When you go to purchase a car, usually you are looking for the most options, durability and value for your money.  Why would you consider any lesser standards for something you are going to place on your penis?  When you think about it, it makes sense to get only the best when it comes to issues surrounding your manhood, right?

So take a look at the Brass Pump for penis enlargement:

“We vant… to pump… you up! This Brass penis pump kit is a fine example of the penis pump. The kit includes our standard cylinder and durable brass pump. We’ve also thrown in a two ounce container of penis pumping lubricant.

Sold with 30 days manufacturer defect warranty.

Some men swear by the use of pumps as effective tools for increasing size, while others think pumps have no lasting effect. Pumps can extend length while using, but the question is, will the penis return to original size after using? Unfortunately we do not have that answer and cannot guarantee or be responsible for any results.”

This is a solid pump with high quality construction, or value for your money complete with a warranty.  This pump comes in several sizes, so you can choose the one that is right for you.  Now that’s a deal worth considering for the discriminating shopper.  You can also check out our complete line of featured products for men for other great ideas.

Hands down, this is the best lube that I have ever used.  I felt like I should get that on the record first, because it only gets better and I figured that those of you who are going to read on should be forewarned that you are about to get the scoop on the best.  Gun Oil H2O as a name conjures up a memory of the movie Full Metal Jacket, where Marine recruits are marching around singing “This is my rifle, this is my gun.”

But don’t let the name fool you, this is a seriously good product that has no faults that I can find.

My first, and most important, rule regarding lubricant is that it doesn’t matter how good it is, if it ruins the sheets, mattress, carpet, or whatever else, it isn’t a viable option.  I’ve had lubes absolutely wreck my sheets before, and that makes them worthless.  If one has to buy new sheets for each lube usage, the lube becomes cost prohibitive.  Gun Oil doesn’t leave a hideous mess on the sheets, and when it does come into contact with the sheets it cleans up easily.  So it passes the first test.

But it gets better.  This lube feels great on contact and is as effective as even silicone lube.  I’m not claiming that it lasts as long as silicone lubricant, but I will say that it lasted long enough not to require multiple applications.  I’ve never found another water based lube that doesn’t require multiple applications.

Being able to concentrate on the fun, without having to reach for the lube is a huge plus mark.  And going back to the feeling, imagine something silky smooth applied to your skin and getting smoother with friction.  That’s what Gun Oil does.

It is perfectly safe for use with a condom and any toy type.  That versatility adds another notch for this gun.  You can use the Gun Oil H2O on your favorite silicone toy and not worry about damage.  And knowing that your condom is safe is a pretty big deal too.  A bigger deal yet is knowing that you won’t find parabens or other unhealthy ingredients in your lube, and Gun Oil doesn’t contain the bad stuff.

It doesn’t present any strong smells either.  Some lubes have that aroma that can kill the moment.  Gun oil doesn’t.  And finally, application is a breeze.  It has enough consistency that you won’t waste much as you apply it.  If you pinch pennies, you’d be happy to know that Ebeneezer Scrooge would give Gun Oil two thumbs up.

As you may know, working in the sex toy business, I get to see many products that are on the market, and try more than a few.  I’ve tried many lubricants.  Like I said at the beginning, Gun Oil H2O is the best, hands down.