Men, Anal Sex Toys and an Odd Question
I can’t think of a better way to start this post other than to begin with the question that I’ve seen hundreds of times now. “Does using an anal sex toy make me gay?” Of course, it comes in many forms. Does letting her use the strap-on make me gay? Will a butt plug make me gay? Or, the affirmative statements like, I’d like to try it with her, but I don’t want to be gay.
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The only logical way to handle the questions is to keep the answer simple. Toys don’t define a person’s sexuality. They’re designed to stimulate parts of the body. Whether or not a person is gay, straight or bisexual, is irrelevant when it comes to toys. A toy will either stimulate or it won’t. But it doesn’t offer any definitions.
As a friend put it, hugging a gay person won’t make you gay either. The issue that I’d like to single out in this effort is the stigmas that are still applied to intimacy. The questions I’ve read all come from a judgmental framework that is likely to ruin someone’s sex life, regardless of his sexuality. If a man wants his wife or girlfriend to wear a strap-on [Note to those who may not have caught on to this yet: by definition, a man having sex with a woman is not engaged in homosexual intercourse.] and she wants to try it, it could lead to fun for both. And how much fun do people miss by embracing the stigma?
Toys are meant to be fun. As long as you’re playing safely, where you put them is irrelevant to your sexual identity, unless you make it relevant. So grab a butt plug and some lube, give it a try and see what happens. Don’t let tired old stigmas spoil your fun.
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