One of the ideas I have a hard time understanding, is the idea that sex toys are strictly novelties used by small numbers of people in society.  This couldn’t be further from the truth, yet many people cling to it.  The fact is, sex toy use is more mainstream than ever, and the market is growing.  As far back as ten years ago, The Xandria Collection sponsored a survey to see who used their toys.  One conclusion was astonishing, at first glance:

“The most common vibrator user was a white Christian married woman, in her thirties, who votes Republican.” - Source: Toys in the Sheets Survey

Makes sense that the exact opposite of who we might expect to be using vibrators are some of the biggest customers.  I had a good chuckle at that sentence, but I thought it might be an exaggeration of the statistics, right up until today.  I thought most users were average people like me with no big hang ups about having fun and more or less middle of the road in our tastes.  That was before I read about Patty Brisben.

Directly from the full article at the Globe and Mail:

“Patty Brisben is a churchgoing mother of four who has made millions selling sex toys at private in-home gatherings not unlike Tupperware parties. On Super Bowl Sunday, Ms. Brisben will star in Mother Knows Sex, a TLC reality show about Pure Romance, her Cincinnati-based family business that now employs 30,000 consultants across the United States. Ms. Brisben spoke to The Globe and Mail about the school-bus bullies who teased her son about his “dildo lady” mom, her husband’s role and what’s selling.”

And

“TLC mentions you’re a devoted churchgoer. Did you get flak from your fellow parishioners?

People know who I am and know what I do, and no, I don’t get flak. People are very supportive.

How do you reconcile religion with what you’re selling?

The way I look at it is I’m promoting healthier relationships. If you or anybody thinks that by any [stretch] of the imagination, one piece of paper is going to bond you for life, you’re crazy. That’s not going to happen. Even if you stayed together, you want to keep stagnation out of your relationship. Think about it this way: You maintenance your house. Your car’s not going to run unless you rotate the tires. You need to maintain your relationship. I’m not saying because you don’t own a bedroom toy or a particular lubricant that you’re any less of a person. I’m just saying incorporating some of this into your lifestyle is fun. It’s healthy and good to do.”

So that scores one for Xandria’s research.  And the numbers of people using all kinds of sex toys are growing.  So it’s safe to say that we’ll probably see different demographics over time.  I’m always happily surprised to see more open minded people who enjoy their fun and don’t mind talking about sexual health and well being.

Since being featured on the Oprah Winfrey show, the Aphrodite has been a vibe with serious buzz.  From California Exotics:

“Infrared Rechargeable Massager with 3 Interchangeable Silicone Sleeves. Multi-purpose design for muscle relaxation and erogenous stimulation. The massaging head has a flexo-joint so it moves with you. 3 attachments made of high quality Silicone to personalize your pleasure.

2 speed vibrations with low infrared heat provides soothing sensations. AC 110 volt wall recharger and rechargeable batteries included. Part of the Berman Center Intimate Accessories line. Products designed for women, by women to give you and your partner exactly what you need to optimize your sex life.”

True Love Romantic G by EvoLveD

Some users find that stimulation of the “G-spot,” named for Ernst Gräfenberg, the gynecologist who first speculated that it existed, is the most exciting form of stimulation a person can receive.  We believe that each individual has areas of excitement that are greater than others, but if a user has found the “G-spot,” then these vibes are the pinnacle of pleasure and arousal.  The G-spot vibes are all designed to stimulate an area on the vaginal wall with vibration.

The number of shapes designed to perform that function rises with new styles each year.  Some G-spot vibrators have egg shaped tips.  Some have flat tips designed to contact a wider area of nerve endings.  Some have a simple curve designed to reach the sensitive area.  In fact, many other styles of vibrators, like Rabbit Vibrators, have G-spot designs built in to them.

As for materials, users will find a variety of materials from which to choose.  Some G-spot vibrators are crafted from hard plastic, while others are built to be soft and flexible with materials ranging from silicone to jelly.  Some G-spot vibrators are built with soft attachments to stimulate the clitoris as well.  And the variety in materials makes them available for a wide range of prices, ensuring that users will find one that matches the budget.

Dinky Digger II Vibrator by Fun Factory

Control types for these vibrators will depend on the number of functions provided, size and general dimensions.  Some have wired, or wireless, remote controllers for control functions.  Others have built in control pads or buttons.  Several have the dial base control.  The types of functions that a model provides will influence what type of control will be used.

Larger G-spot vibrators will generally use larger batteries, as will generally be the case with models that provide multiple stimulation points.  Smaller and simpler models will use smaller batteries.  Remember to check the Attachments and Accessories section to find the batteries needed for playtime!

G-spot vibrators, because of their function, are designed for insertion.  With that in mind, users should double-check any Lube specifications as well.  Having the right lubrication will ensure an enjoyable experience with a new G-spot vibrator.

G-spot vibrators are among the most popular style for a reason: users love them.  Finding the right model is really a matter of finding the right spot and matching the vibrator to it.  Some say the journey is as fun as arriving at the destination, where the G-spot is concerned.  They’re probably right.  But we’ve been assured that the destination is wonderful too, and we don’t argue with happy people!

Rocket Booster

Power can come from the most surprising places, and Jenna’s Rocket Booster & Controller is a great surprise for Valentine’s Day.  From Doc Johnson:

“Requested by Jenna Jameson herself, her favorite Pocket Rocket can be hooked up to the new 5-Function, 10 Speed Controller!

To Keep the Rocket more discreet and mobile, simply unplug the cord from the controller and place the battery back in the Pocket Rocket. You’re now ready to go and go and go…

To use the multiple functions, simply take out the battery, attach the cable to both the controller and the Pocket Rocket and let it boost you into ecstasy!

4 inches in length, 1 inch in diameter.

This toy requires 1 AA battery for the Booster Vibe and 2 AA batteries for the controller, not included.”

Check it out and you’ll agree that this little vibrator is as powerful as you’ll need it to be.

We’re pretty serious about sex toys here, but I’m a firm believer that sex is something you should laugh about. If you’re not laughing once in a while, you’re probably not doing it right! Chelsea Handler, comedian, tv lady, and New York Times best selling author, isn’t one to shy away from taboo topics and this quick clip makes me thankful of that.

And I don’t even want to think about what my parents will think if they ever have to clean out my house…